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12 virgins are heading
towards a paradise island

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to take part in
a unique experiment.

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The word "virgin",
people see it as a joke.

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It's quite upsetting.

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I'm 23, still a virgin.

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I feel like there's something wrong
with me.

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In a world where sex
is everywhere...

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My God.
Terrified, absolutely terrified.

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..the truth is surprising.

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There are more adult virgins
than ever.

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Being a young adult in this day
and age is difficult.

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Social media. Dating apps.
Influencers.

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TV shows. Porn. Porn. Porn. Porn.
Porn is everywhere.

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Are you self-conscious about
our genitals touching each other?

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Now... Yeah.

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..this radical retreat is offering
a very hands-on solution.

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Oh, yeah.

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She's a miracle worker.

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Woohoo! Oh, God, yes.

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Overseen by a group of experts...

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Yeah. Like that? I like that.

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..ready to do anything
to help Britain's virgins...

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There's the clitoris.
Do you have any questions?

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..lose the one thing...

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Do I make you feel nervous?

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..they feel is holding them back.

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I would love to have sex with you.

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I do feel like there's
a barrier between me and sex.

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I want to lose my virginity.
It's now or never.

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But when the moment arrives...

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Would you like to move to the bed?

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..who will be ready...

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I just don't want anyone
to touch me.

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..to go all...the way?

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MAN: You're so sexy.

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WOMAN: That feels so good.

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Here they come.

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Can you imagine how scared
they are?

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Aloha! Hey! Welcome.

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For the next two weeks...
Welcome, my friend.

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..this experimental retreat
will be home

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to 12 young people from all over
the UK...

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So good to meet you. Want a hug?

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Yeah, go on.
..who desperately want help.

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Welcome, so good to meet you.

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Everyone's so spiritual.

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I could be a 40-year-old virgin.

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I feel like I'm on
a really bad route right now,

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and I need...
I need something to change.

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Hey, Tom, I'm Devah.
Ah, nice to meet you.

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Do you need a hand getting out?

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Er, yes, I will do. Yeah, cheers.

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I'd describe myself as a nerd
because I feel I look like one -

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the glasses,
perhaps not the best physique.

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So if I can lose my virginity,

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that's one less thing for people
to ridicule me over.

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Hi!

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They're here to learn...

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Hi. Would you like a hug?

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Um, I'm all right, thank you.

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..from some of the world's
most experienced experts

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on how to embrace intimacy.

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Oh, hello.

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Welcome. Thank you.

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I just can't do touch.
I don't know why.

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I've never had a girlfriend.

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My fear is that I'm always
going to be a virgin.

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I'm like, what am I doing wrong?

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I've never been abroad before,

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so if anything,
I've popped my flying virginity.

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Yay!

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My social life's non-existent.

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I've got two cats. I feed them, I
look after them, but they attack me.

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But I know they love me in their own
way. But, yeah, not very social.

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This is where you'll be staying.

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For the duration of their stay...

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Home, sweet home.

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I mean,
it's not quite my usual colour.

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..they'll wear a retreat outfit...

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You know, like, prisoners who get
out on good behaviour

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to go pick up litter?

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That's sort of the colour palette
we're working with.

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..so they can focus on themselves,
not their image.

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Basic, but comfy.

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I would like to walk away from
the island

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with more self-confidence

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because when you see
a lot of celebrities on Instagram,

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they just have everything
so perfect.

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Comparing myself to people online
disrupted my self-esteem,

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and it's something that I've been
struggling with for so long.

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It is so easy to say,

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"Don't worry about
the way you look in the mirror",

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but then it's so hard
to put that into action.

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I think once I'm more content
with myself,

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I will then be able to live life,

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and losing my virginity
would probably be my final goal.

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This is going to be your hang-out
zone.

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Oh, that looks fantastic.
It's beautiful.

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I can't get over how clear the water
is.

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Before the course begins,

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the group have a chance to get
to know each other at the hang-out.

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Ooh, hello.

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Hey, guys. Are you OK?

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I'm Taylor. Nice to meet you.
Nice to meet you.

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I am bisexual.

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I do know what I'm interested in,

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but with boys and girls,

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the only experiences I've had
have been negative.

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You kind of feel like it's just you
who's having this issue,

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nobody else is.

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INTERVIEWER: Is that quite
isolating?

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Yeah, it's very isolating,
yeah.

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Sorry.

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Oh, hello.

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Hi, I'm Tom. I'm Zac.

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Zac, nice to meet you, Zac,
how are you, OK?

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Very good, yeah.

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I went to university
for three years,

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but I was depressed in many ways

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by the fact that I'm a virgin.

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I didn't get the degree
that I should have got.

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And ever since, I've been stuck

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doing jobs that I never really
wanted to do.

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I'm tired of the person that I've
become.

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It can't go on.

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Mmm.

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The group sessions are where most of
the touch stuff's going to be done.

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The thing I'm dreading is hugging.

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Did you not hug at the start? No.
Or handshakes?

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I shook their hands, I don't do
hugs. Yeah, I shook their hand.

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Oh. I would have been like, "No".

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I'd jump in the water.
I don't do hugging.

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It's the therapy itself that scares
me now.

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I'm just getting more
and more tense.

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The virgins are clearly nervous
about what lies ahead,

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and that's understandable.
It's a course like no other...

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OK, good.

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..set up by ground-breaking sex
therapists Celeste and Danielle.

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Eyes closed.

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What's going to happen on this
island is mind-blowing.

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Breathe.

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One in eight people at age 26
are still virgins in the UK.

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This is happening all over the
world.

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Even the French are having less sex.

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With a team of international
sex coaches

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trained in different touch
therapies,

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they'll help the group

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try to overcome their worries
around virginity.

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Tucked away on the island
are sexy therapy spaces and bedrooms

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where they can practise
the art of intimacy.

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You can't really learn how
to play a guitar from a book,

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and you can't learn how to give
and receive pleasure

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by just talking about it.

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Sometimes the only way
to help someone is to get physical.

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They don't know it yet,

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but each phase of the course will
push them to their very limits...

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CHEERING

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..as they take their first steps

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to sexual confidence.

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That feels so good.

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Let's go.

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It's a process that starts now...

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They're there waiting for us,
Oh, God. Oh, no.

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..with the foundation
of all sexual attraction...

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Welcome! Welcome.

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..desire.

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We are so excited
to start our workshops today,

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and the first phase of this course
is desire and letting shame go.

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Shame is very much attached
to desire and turn-ons,

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and so much of shame melts away

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when people come together and start
to talk about sex.

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Each of you need to have a space
and a pillow.

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The first exercise will give Celeste
and Danielle

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a clear idea of who in the group is
open to desire...

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Wonderful,
start by closing your eyes.

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..and who may be resistant.

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Just listening to my voice - ahhh.

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I'm going to start
by taking a nice, deep breath.

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Ahhhhhh.

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I'm going to make lots of noise
too, by the way.

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This may not be most people's idea
of sex,

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but for virgins,

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Celeste and Danielle's research
shows,

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it's a great way
to tune in to your body.

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Breathwork is very powerful.

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We use breath to help people expand
on sensations,

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release emotions.

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So breath is key.

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I'm going to up the speed of
the breath.

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Ahhhh.

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Ahhhh.

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OK, who is willing to make sound
with me?

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OTHERS JOIN IN: Ahhhh.

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Ahhhh.

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Some are throwing themselves in.

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Ahhhh.

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Wonderful, you're doing it, I love
it, good job.

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But others seem more sceptical,

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and for touch-phobic Jason...

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..it's more than he can handle.

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OTHERS: Ahhh.

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Ahh, it's amazing how much breath
we can take

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to warm up our body
to feel more

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and experience more,.

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Get it in, yeah.

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Check your feet, yeah.
I love this dance.

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Ahhhh.

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With the next breath,
we're going to raise our hands.

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Ooooh!

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Wonderful. Great, OK.

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Celeste and Danielle move onto
the next exercise...

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Start by pairing up.

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..to teach them that before
saying yes, it's OK to say no.

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All right, so this exercise
is about saying no.

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So, one of you is going to ask
the other person for three things,

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and then the other person
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Go on, think of something.

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Can I borrow £50?

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Oh, no.

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We need people to feel safe.

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If people don't feel safe,

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they won't feel safe to open up
and start and try new things.

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Can I have a go on your golf cart?

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Absolutely not, no.

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Can I...? I don't know what to say!

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When I'm around a member of
the opposite sex, I'm very awkward.

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Can I punch you in the face?

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No.

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I tend to say things
without thinking.

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Can I throw you in the sea? No.

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I wish it was different.

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I'd love to be able to speak to
a girl,

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keep a conversation and go on a
date,

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that's my kind of dream.

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Can I feed you to a lion?

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No.

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Mine are all violent!

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Take a seat. Yeah, just sit and
relax.

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The level of inexperience is clear,

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so Celeste and Danielle decide
to test

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how the group reacts
to intense intimacy.

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I want to give you a little demo of
what you might get

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to tease your appetite a little bit.

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Andre?

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We call it "up against the wall."

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DANIELLE SIGHS BREATHILY

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Ohh.

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Ohhhh.

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Witnessing sexual desire,
for most of this group,

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is clearly unsettling.

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DANIELLE MOANS

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MORE BREATHING AND MOANING

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Ohhh.

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Mmm.

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OK.

257
00:12:27,240 --> 00:12:30,600
I actually want to get your first,
sort of, like, visceral response.

258
00:12:30,640 --> 00:12:33,600
It was like watching a sex scene
with your parents, but times 100.

259
00:12:33,640 --> 00:12:37,120
Quite uncomfortable,
to be honest, watching that.

260
00:12:37,160 --> 00:12:38,680
So let yourself have any feelings.

261
00:12:38,720 --> 00:12:40,760
If you want to laugh, laugh,

262
00:12:40,800 --> 00:12:43,400
if you want to cry, cry,
it's all OK.

263
00:12:43,440 --> 00:12:46,720
This big insecurity that I have when
it comes to my looks

264
00:12:46,760 --> 00:12:51,280
means I can't imagine that someone
would want to be with me in any way,

265
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where you are so stuck in this
mindset

266
00:12:53,640 --> 00:12:58,000
that someone would be ashamed
to walk down the street with you,

267
00:12:58,040 --> 00:12:59,840
it's like a never-ending cycle,

268
00:12:59,880 --> 00:13:02,480
like a roundabout that doesn't stop.

269
00:13:02,520 --> 00:13:05,920
When I was growing up, I would
always get labelled as the DUFF,

270
00:13:05,960 --> 00:13:09,080
which is
"designated ugly fat friend."

271
00:13:10,440 --> 00:13:13,760
So I would always believe that
I was ugly.

272
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So I think there's
a lot that I need to work on.

273
00:13:20,520 --> 00:13:23,760
All right. We're going to come in a
circle.

274
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Big round of applause.

275
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Whoo!

276
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LAUGHTER

277
00:13:29,000 --> 00:13:32,440
Thank you all, bye.

278
00:13:32,480 --> 00:13:34,320
What have I got myself into?

279
00:13:34,360 --> 00:13:36,680
I feel like I'm in a cult.

280
00:13:36,720 --> 00:13:39,160
I'd be lying if I said
it wasn't weird.

281
00:13:39,200 --> 00:13:40,360
They seem cultish.

282
00:13:40,400 --> 00:13:42,440
It just seems they've got this
island

283
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where they live in
a completely different world.

284
00:13:44,720 --> 00:13:47,760
The up against the wall
was interesting.

285
00:13:47,800 --> 00:13:50,920
By the end, I'd love to be able
to do that.

286
00:13:51,920 --> 00:13:54,040
I could not look
after he kicked her legs apart,

287
00:13:54,080 --> 00:13:55,560
that was too aggressive.

288
00:13:55,600 --> 00:13:58,360
I think that's actually most
intimate I've ever seen people...

289
00:13:58,400 --> 00:13:59,600
Be in front of you. ..in person.

290
00:14:01,840 --> 00:14:04,960
I don't think I was fully ready
for that.

291
00:14:05,000 --> 00:14:08,240
Because I'm so shut off
to that sort of world,

292
00:14:08,280 --> 00:14:10,600
I've never felt that sort
of emotion.

293
00:14:10,640 --> 00:14:12,920
I've walked away feeling
really overwhelmed.

294
00:14:12,960 --> 00:14:15,960
So I'm a bit, like,
brain-boggled at the minute.

295
00:14:16,000 --> 00:14:17,600
The course has just begun,

296
00:14:17,640 --> 00:14:19,520
and so far they've only had
a taste

297
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of the unconventional methods ahead.

298
00:14:21,960 --> 00:14:24,200
The next workshop may be tougher,

299
00:14:24,240 --> 00:14:26,920
and I may actually not be ready for
that.

300
00:14:39,000 --> 00:14:41,680
Do you reckon there's any dead
bodies in the water?

301
00:14:41,720 --> 00:14:43,080
Do you reckon? Probably.

302
00:14:43,120 --> 00:14:47,280
It's halfway through day one
on Virgin Island.

303
00:14:47,320 --> 00:14:49,080
Coming out as a virgin is difficult

304
00:14:49,120 --> 00:14:54,080
because I think in this day and age,
people see it as such a negative.

305
00:14:54,120 --> 00:14:58,080
For men, we hide it
if you're a virgin,

306
00:14:58,120 --> 00:15:00,960
mostly because of how other men will
see them. 100%, yeah.

307
00:15:01,000 --> 00:15:03,640
I told someone in our office that
I'm a virgin,

308
00:15:03,680 --> 00:15:06,200
and everyone who comes in,
they tell everyone.

309
00:15:06,240 --> 00:15:07,680
LAUGHTER

310
00:15:07,720 --> 00:15:10,320
I wish I was, like, smart enough to
just say,

311
00:15:10,360 --> 00:15:11,560
"Yeah, I've had lots of the sex."

312
00:15:14,880 --> 00:15:17,680
People have so much shame
about being a virgin.

313
00:15:17,720 --> 00:15:20,240
I think between romcoms and porn,

314
00:15:20,280 --> 00:15:23,040
there's so much perfectionism
that's put out there.

315
00:15:23,080 --> 00:15:25,000
Like, it's so much pressure

316
00:15:25,040 --> 00:15:29,760
that they're just terrified
to try anything at all.

317
00:15:29,800 --> 00:15:32,040
That's where we come in.

318
00:15:32,080 --> 00:15:33,400
Each step of the way,

319
00:15:33,440 --> 00:15:37,560
the experts will share notes
with each other about the group.

320
00:15:37,600 --> 00:15:41,240
When you did the up against the wall
exercise, she started crying.

321
00:15:41,280 --> 00:15:45,920
And after an emotional reaction
during this morning's workshop,

322
00:15:45,960 --> 00:15:47,760
their first concern is Emma.

323
00:15:47,800 --> 00:15:51,040
I could see her face. She was, like,
really feeling it, really intense.

324
00:15:51,080 --> 00:15:52,880
It was too much for her
to see it, really.

325
00:15:52,920 --> 00:15:55,680
She was, like,
picturing herself in this situation,

326
00:15:55,720 --> 00:16:00,600
and she got very overwhelmed.
Like, that was my sense.

327
00:16:00,640 --> 00:16:01,800
Every afternoon,

328
00:16:01,840 --> 00:16:05,680
there are one on one sessions across
the island,

329
00:16:05,720 --> 00:16:07,480
and first, the experts want Emma

330
00:16:07,520 --> 00:16:12,800
to explore her boundaries
around intimacy with Thomas.

331
00:16:12,840 --> 00:16:15,200
Going 23 years being single,

332
00:16:15,240 --> 00:16:19,840
I've never had the experience of
someone romantically touching me.

333
00:16:19,880 --> 00:16:22,440
If I ever got presented
with the situation of sex,

334
00:16:22,480 --> 00:16:26,320
I worry that I could have
a panic attack.

335
00:16:26,360 --> 00:16:28,560
Hello, Emma, welcome.
Hi, you OK?

336
00:16:28,600 --> 00:16:32,280
I've never masturbated

337
00:16:32,320 --> 00:16:35,720
and I've never experienced an
orgasm, no.

338
00:16:35,760 --> 00:16:40,440
There's no way that I could
experience one, I don't think.

339
00:16:41,520 --> 00:16:44,760
I want to propose you
a little game around touch.

340
00:16:44,800 --> 00:16:48,000
OK. You just ask for
the kind of touch you really like.

341
00:16:48,040 --> 00:16:49,280
OK. Yeah.

342
00:16:53,520 --> 00:16:56,120
What would make you happy
to receive?

343
00:16:56,160 --> 00:16:57,600
It's not something that I'm like,

344
00:16:57,640 --> 00:17:00,240
"Oh, I wish someone would touch me
there", do you know what I mean?

345
00:17:00,280 --> 00:17:01,280
I don't think like that.

346
00:17:01,320 --> 00:17:03,040
Yeah.

347
00:17:03,080 --> 00:17:07,440
Um, maybe, yeah,
maybe you could touch my knee?

348
00:17:07,480 --> 00:17:10,480
OK. Yeah.

349
00:17:10,520 --> 00:17:15,160
The idea is to test how Emma reacts
to escalating touch.

350
00:17:15,200 --> 00:17:16,280
Thank you.

351
00:17:16,320 --> 00:17:18,080
Do you want to try somewhere else

352
00:17:18,120 --> 00:17:21,840
where you feel it might be more,
like, involved?

353
00:17:21,880 --> 00:17:25,080
Maybe if you try upper thigh?

354
00:17:32,040 --> 00:17:35,680
When it gets to up this bit,
it gets a little bit like,

355
00:17:35,720 --> 00:17:38,560
"Oh, God, like, what's going
to happen?", sort of thing.

356
00:17:38,600 --> 00:17:40,800
It feels like you mean you
have some...

357
00:17:40,840 --> 00:17:43,120
Fear.

358
00:17:43,160 --> 00:17:45,640
I feel like if you went
around here,

359
00:17:45,680 --> 00:17:48,520
I probably would have maybe had
a panic attack.

360
00:17:50,800 --> 00:17:55,280
I did as much as I could
and I pushed myself to my limit

361
00:17:55,320 --> 00:17:57,160
for the level I'm currently at,

362
00:17:57,200 --> 00:17:59,400
but I don't think I was fully ready
for it.

363
00:17:59,440 --> 00:18:04,080
I feel quite drained.
I feel a bit upset.

364
00:18:05,440 --> 00:18:10,000
Well, thank you so much, Emma, and,
yeah, I will just come with you.

365
00:18:10,040 --> 00:18:13,520
I feel she is kind of a bit stuck.

366
00:18:13,560 --> 00:18:16,640
Thank you. See you again.
Take care. See you later, bye-bye.

367
00:18:16,680 --> 00:18:20,040
She was going through it,
but really one toe at a time,

368
00:18:20,080 --> 00:18:21,760
one step at a time.

369
00:18:22,880 --> 00:18:24,680
Emma's struggling.

370
00:18:24,720 --> 00:18:28,360
Hello, Charlotte,
do you want a hug?

371
00:18:28,400 --> 00:18:29,600
No, I'm all right, thank you.

372
00:18:29,640 --> 00:18:31,120
And as some of the others

373
00:18:31,160 --> 00:18:34,320
experience their first taste of
touch therapy...

374
00:18:34,360 --> 00:18:35,960
What's coming up for you?

375
00:18:36,000 --> 00:18:37,720
Um, I know it's a simple thing,

376
00:18:37,760 --> 00:18:40,520
but I feel like I'm doing a bad job.

377
00:18:41,480 --> 00:18:45,560
..it's clear Emma's not
the only one finding it difficult.

378
00:18:45,600 --> 00:18:48,120
OK, right up close, yep.

379
00:18:48,160 --> 00:18:50,440
Out of 100, how intimate would you
describe it?

380
00:18:50,480 --> 00:18:52,240
Yeah, probably like 90.

381
00:18:52,280 --> 00:18:53,440
I think that's where we call it.

382
00:18:53,480 --> 00:18:56,240
Take a step backwards, please.

383
00:19:01,200 --> 00:19:03,520
But bucking the trend is Zac.

384
00:19:03,560 --> 00:19:05,000
Oh, come on in! I'm so excited.

385
00:19:05,040 --> 00:19:06,760
I am as well.

386
00:19:06,800 --> 00:19:08,800
After throwing himself into
the first workshop...

387
00:19:08,840 --> 00:19:13,600
Voila. ..the experts want to test
how far Zac is ready to go.

388
00:19:13,640 --> 00:19:15,400
I've always wanted to be accepted,

389
00:19:15,440 --> 00:19:17,160
I've always wanted
to be liked by others.

390
00:19:17,200 --> 00:19:21,160
It's something I haven't felt
I've had at many points in my life.

391
00:19:21,200 --> 00:19:24,880
I know you feel also like
a failure around sexuality, right?

392
00:19:24,920 --> 00:19:26,160
Big time, yeah,

393
00:19:26,200 --> 00:19:28,600
it's just so hard
to let go of that.

394
00:19:28,640 --> 00:19:32,680
Of course. I don't know if I can.
I know.

395
00:19:32,720 --> 00:19:36,000
Can I just have a tissue, please?
Wipe these away.

396
00:19:36,040 --> 00:19:38,040
Have the box.

397
00:19:38,080 --> 00:19:40,880
Sex was a taboo.

398
00:19:40,920 --> 00:19:44,400
My family never, even to this day,
talks about it.

399
00:19:44,440 --> 00:19:47,880
I grew up seeing my dad only once
a week,

400
00:19:47,920 --> 00:19:50,440
and he never talked about it.

401
00:19:50,480 --> 00:19:52,960
So I can't get tips or ask
someone,

402
00:19:53,000 --> 00:19:55,640
"Hey, how do I attract
a woman?"

403
00:19:55,680 --> 00:20:00,680
It feels like I should have figured
that all that out a long time ago.

404
00:20:00,720 --> 00:20:05,560
Also, I don't feel attractive
or handsome.

405
00:20:05,600 --> 00:20:10,440
Um, I assume that
the way that other people see me

406
00:20:10,480 --> 00:20:14,440
is negative, I think, generally.

407
00:20:14,480 --> 00:20:17,480
I want to play a fantasy with you.

408
00:20:17,520 --> 00:20:19,400
Really?

409
00:20:19,440 --> 00:20:24,040
Danielle believes her methods can
give Zac the confidence he needs.

410
00:20:24,080 --> 00:20:26,240
How close? This close?

411
00:20:26,280 --> 00:20:27,440
That's all right, yeah.

412
00:20:27,480 --> 00:20:31,280
But it's not like any therapy
he may have seen before.

413
00:20:31,320 --> 00:20:33,120
Mmm.

414
00:20:33,160 --> 00:20:36,480
I'm just going to kiss you
gently. Mmm-hmm.

415
00:20:36,520 --> 00:20:41,840
And I want you to see if you can
really take it in, OK?

416
00:20:53,920 --> 00:20:56,800
ZAC: Mmmmm.

417
00:20:56,840 --> 00:20:58,800
Mmm.

418
00:20:59,960 --> 00:21:02,440
SHE WHISPERS: How does that feel?

419
00:21:05,440 --> 00:21:06,520
Good.

420
00:21:06,560 --> 00:21:08,720
HE LAUGHS NERVOUSLY

421
00:21:08,760 --> 00:21:12,480
Oh, now I start to feel your
arousal.

422
00:21:12,520 --> 00:21:15,440
Oh, my God, this is so sexy.

423
00:21:15,480 --> 00:21:21,600
Her hands on technique works by
giving Zac a physical experience...

424
00:21:21,640 --> 00:21:23,120
I just love how you bite your lip.

425
00:21:23,160 --> 00:21:26,360
..a form of somatic,
or touch therapy.

426
00:21:28,320 --> 00:21:30,360
Mmm.

427
00:21:32,960 --> 00:21:36,400
Somatic therapy believes that
just talking with someone

428
00:21:36,440 --> 00:21:38,240
is not going to be sufficient,

429
00:21:38,280 --> 00:21:40,760
and we really need to help people
through the body

430
00:21:40,800 --> 00:21:45,200
in order to really create some sort
of change.

431
00:21:45,240 --> 00:21:46,600
Thank you.

432
00:21:46,640 --> 00:21:48,720
Thank you.

433
00:21:50,840 --> 00:21:53,720
No-one's ever said that I'm sexy.
No-one.

434
00:21:54,760 --> 00:21:58,880
I'm feeling fuzzy, all over.

435
00:21:58,920 --> 00:22:00,080
In that session alone,

436
00:22:00,120 --> 00:22:03,560
I've done things that
I've been craving for a long time.

437
00:22:03,600 --> 00:22:05,960
Go conquer the world.

438
00:22:06,000 --> 00:22:07,800
I'm making tonnes of progress.

439
00:22:10,280 --> 00:22:11,320
Back in the hang-out,

440
00:22:11,360 --> 00:22:13,040
the others are keen
to find out more.

441
00:22:13,080 --> 00:22:16,800
Hello! Where have you been?

442
00:22:16,840 --> 00:22:18,600
Been off to the one to one session.
Was it good?

443
00:22:18,640 --> 00:22:21,400
Yeah, actually, it was pretty
intense, a lot of neck kissing.

444
00:22:21,440 --> 00:22:22,520
Do you need a minute?

445
00:22:22,560 --> 00:22:24,120
LAUGHTER
Yeah.

446
00:22:28,000 --> 00:22:29,560
The first day at the retreat

447
00:22:29,600 --> 00:22:32,240
has shown just how many issues
the group has

448
00:22:32,280 --> 00:22:36,280
around sex,
shame and intimacy.

449
00:22:36,320 --> 00:22:39,520
And as the sun sets on the island...

450
00:22:39,560 --> 00:22:44,160
I can see them staring at us.
Oh, I can just sense dread.

451
00:22:44,200 --> 00:22:48,040
..Celeste and Danielle
have one last exercise.

452
00:22:48,080 --> 00:22:50,600
Hello!

453
00:22:50,640 --> 00:22:52,480
So, you each brought an item

454
00:22:52,520 --> 00:22:55,000
that is about letting go of some
piece of shame

455
00:22:55,040 --> 00:22:56,840
that you're ready to be done with,

456
00:22:56,880 --> 00:23:00,840
and we can't wait
to hear your stories.

457
00:23:00,880 --> 00:23:04,560
They'll each share a story
that represents a past failure,

458
00:23:04,600 --> 00:23:06,640
in the hope that they can move on.

459
00:23:06,680 --> 00:23:08,800
I'll go.

460
00:23:13,240 --> 00:23:14,920
My item is about my first year
of uni.

461
00:23:14,960 --> 00:23:18,920
I ended up having feelings
for my flatmate.

462
00:23:18,960 --> 00:23:21,800
So I decided to get her a necklace,

463
00:23:21,840 --> 00:23:23,160
but before I could give it to her,

464
00:23:23,200 --> 00:23:27,680
she made it very clear
we were never going to be anything.

465
00:23:27,720 --> 00:23:30,240
I didn't handle
the rejection too well

466
00:23:30,280 --> 00:23:32,440
and I just beat myself up every day
about it

467
00:23:32,480 --> 00:23:34,960
in terms of how I ended things
with her.

468
00:23:40,560 --> 00:23:43,440
This is my first ever Rubik's Cube,

469
00:23:43,480 --> 00:23:48,200
and the way I treat a lot of
relationships is like a puzzle.

470
00:23:48,240 --> 00:23:50,560
I think that gets in the way.

471
00:23:50,600 --> 00:23:54,840
This is a gift that one
of my...well, my only ex got me.

472
00:23:54,880 --> 00:23:57,080
I didn't really think it meant
that much,

473
00:23:57,120 --> 00:23:59,560
and I should have thrown it out
a while ago.

474
00:24:02,360 --> 00:24:06,840
This is a hoodie from a time in my
life when I...

475
00:24:08,400 --> 00:24:10,520
I just felt really worthless,

476
00:24:10,560 --> 00:24:13,680
and I didn't see a future
for myself.

477
00:24:16,280 --> 00:24:21,240
This is a diary from one
of my only dating relationships

478
00:24:21,280 --> 00:24:25,400
that I felt was too much
for me at the time,

479
00:24:25,440 --> 00:24:27,560
and it's something
I really need to let go of.

480
00:24:33,200 --> 00:24:36,160
I went a bit...more literal.

481
00:24:36,200 --> 00:24:38,680
I have expired condoms.

482
00:24:38,720 --> 00:24:39,720
LAUGHTER

483
00:24:39,760 --> 00:24:42,760
My mate gave these to me before
a house party

484
00:24:42,800 --> 00:24:45,800
and said, "You're definitely going
to need these", and I didn't.

485
00:24:45,840 --> 00:24:48,200
I think if anything signifies
sexual failure,

486
00:24:48,240 --> 00:24:49,880
it's having condoms go out of date.

487
00:24:49,920 --> 00:24:50,920
MORE LAUGHTER

488
00:24:54,360 --> 00:24:56,920
So mine is a childhood photo.

489
00:24:56,960 --> 00:25:00,920
I found it quite difficult to
express emotions when I was this age

490
00:25:00,960 --> 00:25:03,120
and I was more of a people-pleaser,

491
00:25:03,160 --> 00:25:06,200
to the point where I'd end up really
damaging myself

492
00:25:06,240 --> 00:25:10,200
because I was more worried about
their feelings rather than my own.

493
00:25:10,240 --> 00:25:14,320
But I want to let go of
the people-pleasing aspect.

494
00:25:14,360 --> 00:25:15,960
If you don't love yourself,

495
00:25:16,000 --> 00:25:18,840
how the hell are you going to love
anyone else?

496
00:25:18,880 --> 00:25:21,360
Thank you so much, you're amazing.

497
00:25:21,400 --> 00:25:23,640
OK, well, you made us cry.

498
00:25:23,680 --> 00:25:28,200
This was really deep
and really meaningful,

499
00:25:28,240 --> 00:25:30,240
and we're just so proud of you.

500
00:25:30,280 --> 00:25:33,240
Yeah, amazed, actually amazed.

501
00:25:38,560 --> 00:25:40,560
Oh, how did you feel?

502
00:25:40,600 --> 00:25:43,080
I wanted to, you know, say goodbye
to it.

503
00:25:43,120 --> 00:25:46,160
Maybe it's like pulling
a Band-Aid off.

504
00:25:46,200 --> 00:25:49,880
I walked into it a bit sceptical on
how I was going to feel.

505
00:25:49,920 --> 00:25:53,360
I'm trying to open myself up
to learning new things,

506
00:25:53,400 --> 00:25:56,800
but I don't know whether
I've achieved a lot

507
00:25:56,840 --> 00:26:00,880
and I'm not looking forward
to what tomorrow may hold.

508
00:26:00,920 --> 00:26:03,080
Jeez Louise.

509
00:26:03,120 --> 00:26:06,680
It was an intense day,
very long day.

510
00:26:06,720 --> 00:26:08,880
Tensions are only going to get
higher.

511
00:26:08,920 --> 00:26:10,320
Yep.

512
00:26:13,280 --> 00:26:16,280
THUNDER RUMBLES

513
00:26:17,960 --> 00:26:20,200
Stormy night last night,

514
00:26:20,240 --> 00:26:24,880
Stormy weather, I think,
means upheaval, change?

515
00:26:24,920 --> 00:26:28,560
Morning. Morning, guys. Morning!

516
00:26:28,600 --> 00:26:31,240
It's day two at the retreat.

517
00:26:31,280 --> 00:26:35,000
Smoothie? It's strawberry milk.
Go on.

518
00:26:35,040 --> 00:26:38,200
The morning after last night's
shame exercise...

519
00:26:38,240 --> 00:26:40,760
How are you guys feeling about
the presentation last night?

520
00:26:40,800 --> 00:26:43,360
I wasn't expecting
to be quite as emotional.

521
00:26:43,400 --> 00:26:48,120
Yeah. I didn't really enjoy it.

522
00:26:48,160 --> 00:26:51,440
..now, the experts hope
the next exercise

523
00:26:51,480 --> 00:26:54,360
will move from shame back to desire.

524
00:26:54,400 --> 00:26:58,280
We want to see what motivates them
around sex,

525
00:26:58,320 --> 00:27:02,960
and there's nothing more explicit
than writing your erotic story.

526
00:27:03,000 --> 00:27:04,320
THUNDER RUMBLES

527
00:27:04,360 --> 00:27:06,120
The storm clouds are circling,

528
00:27:06,160 --> 00:27:09,520
but it's not just the weather the
group are bracing themselves for.

529
00:27:11,080 --> 00:27:14,320
Hello! Hello! Hello, Danielle.

530
00:27:14,360 --> 00:27:16,040
OK.

531
00:27:16,080 --> 00:27:17,960
Your next exercise...

532
00:27:18,000 --> 00:27:24,000
..write your hottest sexual fantasy,
OK?

533
00:27:25,000 --> 00:27:26,240
Oh, my!

534
00:27:26,280 --> 00:27:29,320
It's a fantasy,
so let yourself go with it,

535
00:27:29,360 --> 00:27:31,960
don't hold back, OK?

536
00:27:32,000 --> 00:27:36,080
Ciao ciao! Wonderful to see you,
bye! Oh, my God.

537
00:27:36,120 --> 00:27:38,080
Did she say hottest or hardest?

538
00:27:38,120 --> 00:27:40,680
Hottest. Oh, blimey, Christ.

539
00:27:40,720 --> 00:27:42,920
I want to go inside.

540
00:27:42,960 --> 00:27:46,320
Is anyone feeling
a bit sick about writing this?

541
00:27:46,360 --> 00:27:48,760
I certainly expect 12 virgins to
struggle

542
00:27:48,800 --> 00:27:50,520
with writing an erotic story.

543
00:27:50,560 --> 00:27:52,600
I don't think they will have much of
a clue

544
00:27:52,640 --> 00:27:54,800
about what they want in terms
of sexuality,

545
00:27:54,840 --> 00:27:57,440
but, you know, we shall see.

546
00:27:57,480 --> 00:27:59,920
This needs to have backing music
over it

547
00:27:59,960 --> 00:28:02,280
and it's like...bow chica wow wow!

548
00:28:02,320 --> 00:28:05,400
Celeste and Danielle want to test

549
00:28:05,440 --> 00:28:09,320
how in touch they are with their
desires.

550
00:28:09,360 --> 00:28:13,440
So far, I've got a couple of
openings.

551
00:28:13,480 --> 00:28:17,280
"It was a dark and stormy night,"
obviously a classic.

552
00:28:17,320 --> 00:28:21,000
Confident after his one on
one session with Danielle yesterday,

553
00:28:21,040 --> 00:28:22,520
Zac is quick off the mark.

554
00:28:22,560 --> 00:28:27,880
"Never before has he been
so surprised", is my other one.

555
00:28:27,920 --> 00:28:30,440
Think I'll try that, yeah.

556
00:28:33,320 --> 00:28:38,520
But for others, revealing their
innermost desires doesn't come easy.

557
00:28:38,560 --> 00:28:41,120
50 Shades Of Grey and stuff,
I've never read that.

558
00:28:41,160 --> 00:28:42,880
I'm not erotic,
so I have no idea what to write.

559
00:28:42,920 --> 00:28:46,800
Like, right now, I'm writing,
"I've bought a lottery ticket."

560
00:28:46,840 --> 00:28:51,000
It's hard to say what my dream
would be in a sexual manner

561
00:28:51,040 --> 00:28:54,800
when I haven't really been open
to having a sexual manner,

562
00:28:54,840 --> 00:28:56,320
if that makes sense.

563
00:28:57,480 --> 00:29:01,000
I'm trying to open myself up
to learning new things,

564
00:29:01,040 --> 00:29:02,640
but it's difficult to do that

565
00:29:02,680 --> 00:29:04,960
when you're not happy with yourself.

566
00:29:08,000 --> 00:29:10,760
I haven't written anything.

567
00:29:10,800 --> 00:29:15,360
I'm a senior parliamentary
researcher for an MP in parliament.

568
00:29:15,400 --> 00:29:17,040
I deal with the public

569
00:29:17,080 --> 00:29:18,880
and I'm actually in a public
speakers' club,

570
00:29:18,920 --> 00:29:20,560
and I'm perfectly comfortable
doing that.

571
00:29:20,600 --> 00:29:22,400
But the thought of having sex
with just one person,

572
00:29:22,440 --> 00:29:25,880
for whatever reason, that just
really is, is quite frightening.

573
00:29:25,920 --> 00:29:27,040
Oh, you've written a novel.

574
00:29:27,080 --> 00:29:29,560
Once you get started, it's a lot
easier, right,

575
00:29:29,600 --> 00:29:30,880
once you've got an idea.

576
00:29:30,920 --> 00:29:33,000
I don't even know how I'd write more
than a page, to be honest with you.

577
00:29:33,040 --> 00:29:36,640
Just pick a subject
and start from there.

578
00:29:36,680 --> 00:29:39,520
Yeah, I suppose.
And then just make it real sexy.

579
00:29:39,560 --> 00:29:41,240
Right? Oh, that's not me.

580
00:29:41,280 --> 00:29:44,360
Whatever floats your boat, you know?
You're way more confident than I am.

581
00:29:44,400 --> 00:29:45,400
ZAC LAUGHS

582
00:29:45,440 --> 00:29:47,480
Yeah, it's quite scary.

583
00:29:52,800 --> 00:29:55,280
Oh, God, we're in the amphitheatre.

584
00:29:55,320 --> 00:29:59,920
Stories written, the experts will
watch to see who's embracing...

585
00:29:59,960 --> 00:30:01,520
Welcome back, everyone.

586
00:30:01,560 --> 00:30:03,080
Morning!

587
00:30:03,120 --> 00:30:06,040
..and who's hiding
their true desires.

588
00:30:08,720 --> 00:30:13,800
So, we're going to invite you
to share your fantasy with us.

589
00:30:13,840 --> 00:30:16,400
I'm not ready for this.

590
00:30:16,440 --> 00:30:18,920
Anyone want to volunteer
to go first?

591
00:30:20,400 --> 00:30:23,640
Take the leap,
it can be so empowering.

592
00:30:27,160 --> 00:30:29,040
I'll go first, yeah?

593
00:30:32,000 --> 00:30:36,560
So, my fantasy, it starts
with me walking towards my castle.

594
00:30:36,600 --> 00:30:39,600
As I enter,
I am greeted by Sofia Vergara,

595
00:30:39,640 --> 00:30:42,240
the Latina lady from Modern Family.

596
00:30:42,280 --> 00:30:44,040
She would say how great my
castle is,

597
00:30:44,080 --> 00:30:45,960
and how my wife is a lucky lady.

598
00:30:46,000 --> 00:30:48,360
I would then proceed
to my master bedroom

599
00:30:48,400 --> 00:30:49,800
due to hearing my name being called

600
00:30:49,840 --> 00:30:53,000
by an almost angelic voice,
my wife - brackets

601
00:30:53,040 --> 00:30:55,200
(not married as I don't want to lose
the castle in the divorce.)

602
00:30:55,240 --> 00:30:56,760
LAUGHTER

603
00:30:56,800 --> 00:30:58,120
The sex is unbelievable.

604
00:30:58,160 --> 00:30:59,840
The best way to describe it

605
00:30:59,880 --> 00:31:01,480
is for you to imagine your very own
fantasy

606
00:31:01,520 --> 00:31:03,320
and multiply the pleasure by
ten.

607
00:31:03,360 --> 00:31:04,920
CHEERING

608
00:31:07,440 --> 00:31:10,040
As more of the group step up...

609
00:31:10,080 --> 00:31:12,360
We reached a bit of land,
covered in rocks.

610
00:31:12,400 --> 00:31:14,960
"Fuck, there's our luggage,
hope she doesn't find my cum socks."

611
00:31:15,000 --> 00:31:16,240
LAUGHTER

612
00:31:16,280 --> 00:31:19,240
..some are struggling
to reveal their desires.

613
00:31:19,280 --> 00:31:21,560
Instead, they're hiding
behind humour.

614
00:31:21,600 --> 00:31:24,160
I didn't even get the chance
to write anything

615
00:31:24,200 --> 00:31:27,080
because I had writer's block, but,
you know, I've thought about it

616
00:31:27,120 --> 00:31:29,120
and I'd be with either
Angelina Jolie or Anne Hathaway.

617
00:31:29,160 --> 00:31:31,000
We'd be watching Villa win
the Champions League.

618
00:31:31,040 --> 00:31:33,320
You know, she'd be just wearing
a Villa top and that'd be that.

619
00:31:33,360 --> 00:31:35,200
LAUGHTER

620
00:31:35,240 --> 00:31:36,760
Others...

621
00:31:36,800 --> 00:31:39,120
A sigh, a kiss,
hot air against skin,

622
00:31:39,160 --> 00:31:40,920
fingers dancing across one another,

623
00:31:40,960 --> 00:31:43,480
the both of us would enjoy
the experience fully.

624
00:31:43,520 --> 00:31:47,480
..seem happier to share their
real fantasies and feelings.

625
00:31:47,520 --> 00:31:50,920
Aphrodite requires tributes made
to her,

626
00:31:50,960 --> 00:31:55,120
an act of physical love
by a devoted and naive nymph.

627
00:31:56,480 --> 00:31:58,200
We'd head back to my house

628
00:31:58,240 --> 00:32:00,320
and she'd sort of lead me upstairs.

629
00:32:00,360 --> 00:32:02,480
You know, I'd pick her up,

630
00:32:02,520 --> 00:32:04,440
take her down on the bed

631
00:32:04,480 --> 00:32:06,880
and I'd probably...
do something with oral sex,

632
00:32:06,920 --> 00:32:08,320
I don't know what I'm doing.

633
00:32:08,360 --> 00:32:09,640
LAUGHTER

634
00:32:09,680 --> 00:32:11,160
We'd just naturally just
start kissing

635
00:32:11,200 --> 00:32:14,360
and she'd bite my lip,
pull down on it...

636
00:32:15,640 --> 00:32:18,000
..and, yeah, that's what it'd be
like.

637
00:32:20,800 --> 00:32:22,040
Let's go.

638
00:32:22,080 --> 00:32:23,480
Go, Zac!

639
00:32:23,520 --> 00:32:27,240
But it's Zac who has
the most explicit story of all.

640
00:32:27,280 --> 00:32:30,280
The shadow descended
from the top of the hill,

641
00:32:30,320 --> 00:32:32,720
upon which stood a towering warrior.

642
00:32:32,760 --> 00:32:35,960
He removed his helmet
to expose his fiery hair.

643
00:32:36,000 --> 00:32:37,560
A maiden stood forth.

644
00:32:37,600 --> 00:32:39,680
"Remove your sandals",
she commanded.

645
00:32:39,720 --> 00:32:41,560
Obligingly, he knelt down.

646
00:32:41,600 --> 00:32:43,360
In that moment, she lifted her skirt

647
00:32:43,400 --> 00:32:45,640
and forced his head
between her knees.

648
00:32:45,680 --> 00:32:47,800
She let out a moan of pure ecstasy.

649
00:32:47,840 --> 00:32:50,840
She removed her dress,
exposing her breasts and naked body.

650
00:32:50,880 --> 00:32:53,880
The warrior entered her many times,
their bodies becoming one.

651
00:32:53,920 --> 00:32:55,040
CHEERING AND WHOOPING

652
00:32:56,680 --> 00:32:58,480
Go, Zac!

653
00:32:58,520 --> 00:33:00,240
That's just the first chapter.

654
00:33:00,280 --> 00:33:02,800
Anyone else feeling brave?

655
00:33:02,840 --> 00:33:04,000
OK.

656
00:33:04,040 --> 00:33:05,160
Yesterday's session with Thomas

657
00:33:05,200 --> 00:33:08,800
revealed the extent of Emma's issues
around intimacy,

658
00:33:08,840 --> 00:33:11,840
but her erotic story could offer
more insight.

659
00:33:11,880 --> 00:33:14,480
SHE CLEARS HER THROAT

660
00:33:14,520 --> 00:33:15,520
OK.

661
00:33:20,120 --> 00:33:21,920
My ideal fantasy

662
00:33:21,960 --> 00:33:25,400
would be a person
coming into my life, unexpected...

663
00:33:29,920 --> 00:33:34,200
..a genuine, honest, supportive
and kind male

664
00:33:34,240 --> 00:33:36,160
with no expectation of me,

665
00:33:36,200 --> 00:33:38,240
who has a genuine, big heart,

666
00:33:38,280 --> 00:33:40,040
a love for the world,

667
00:33:40,080 --> 00:33:42,200
to treat others how we wish
to be treated

668
00:33:42,240 --> 00:33:45,680
and to be happy and have the
opportunity to grow together.

669
00:33:45,720 --> 00:33:47,640
CHEERING

670
00:33:48,760 --> 00:33:51,760
You were fantastic,
really amazing, right, Celeste?

671
00:33:51,800 --> 00:33:53,800
That was phenomenal.

672
00:33:53,840 --> 00:33:55,560
Phenomenal.

673
00:33:55,600 --> 00:33:58,320
Gather your stuff,
thank you so much. Thank you.

674
00:34:01,920 --> 00:34:03,000
I really liked yours.

675
00:34:03,040 --> 00:34:05,680
When I'm awkward,
I try and make jokes.

676
00:34:05,720 --> 00:34:08,680
My story wasn't very sexual.

677
00:34:08,720 --> 00:34:10,400
It's how I deal with awkward
situations

678
00:34:10,440 --> 00:34:12,320
of things that I don't really know
what to do,

679
00:34:12,360 --> 00:34:13,680
it's just a defence mechanism
for me.

680
00:34:13,720 --> 00:34:17,160
But everyone seemed to like it
and laugh at it,

681
00:34:17,200 --> 00:34:18,280
so better than I thought.

682
00:34:18,320 --> 00:34:20,600
I felt really good actually getting
up there.

683
00:34:20,640 --> 00:34:24,040
The story I was telling showed
a lot about myself

684
00:34:24,080 --> 00:34:28,120
and, you know, I can see what
experiences I want to have now.

685
00:34:28,160 --> 00:34:31,120
It was actually a little bit of
a confidence boost,

686
00:34:31,160 --> 00:34:34,880
pushing myself and having
the courage to go up there

687
00:34:34,920 --> 00:34:36,360
and do that sort of thing.

688
00:34:36,400 --> 00:34:39,240
It made me feel
a lot better afterwards.

689
00:34:42,560 --> 00:34:44,160
A lot of people say to me,
"Oh, you look young."

690
00:34:44,200 --> 00:34:46,560
I think a lot of people at home
think I'm 18, 19, 20,

691
00:34:46,600 --> 00:34:49,360
but then I always say, "Oh, it's
because I've never had a boyfriend,

692
00:34:49,400 --> 00:34:51,200
"so I haven't been stressed out."

693
00:34:51,240 --> 00:34:52,360
You've never had a boyfriend?

694
00:34:52,400 --> 00:34:54,600
No, no.

695
00:34:54,640 --> 00:34:58,200
After a successful workshop,

696
00:34:58,240 --> 00:35:02,320
the dynamics between the girls
and boys seem to be shifting.

697
00:35:02,360 --> 00:35:04,480
You definitely seem like one of
the most confident

698
00:35:04,520 --> 00:35:06,920
out of all of us, I'd say.
Thank you.

699
00:35:06,960 --> 00:35:09,400
I've worked very hard
to be this confident.

700
00:35:09,440 --> 00:35:11,760
I, er...

701
00:35:11,800 --> 00:35:13,360
I think you're really pretty.

702
00:35:13,400 --> 00:35:15,080
Thank you.

703
00:35:17,360 --> 00:35:19,600
I don't want to be in the sun
for too long. OK.

704
00:35:19,640 --> 00:35:21,480
It was nice having that chat
with you.

705
00:35:22,600 --> 00:35:24,840
Do you think Ben likes me?

706
00:35:24,880 --> 00:35:27,360
I've not noticed him being off
with you or anyone else.

707
00:35:27,400 --> 00:35:30,200
No, it's just that I think
he "likes me" likes me.

708
00:35:30,240 --> 00:35:32,680
Oh, like THAT way?
Oh, OK - oh, I don't know.

709
00:35:34,280 --> 00:35:37,560
While sparks fly between Ben
and Charlotte...

710
00:35:39,760 --> 00:35:42,640
..not everyone is finding island
life quite so easy.

711
00:35:45,800 --> 00:35:47,760
I think Jason needs a lot of, like,
basic,

712
00:35:47,800 --> 00:35:50,160
"This is how you do this,
this is how you do this."

713
00:35:50,200 --> 00:35:52,000
It's just,
it's going to take time for him to,

714
00:35:52,040 --> 00:35:56,000
to feel that empowerment around
touching other people, I think.

715
00:35:56,040 --> 00:35:58,360
Weirdly enough, my sex education,

716
00:35:58,400 --> 00:36:00,000
because I moved school,

717
00:36:00,040 --> 00:36:02,000
I missed the sex ed week,

718
00:36:02,040 --> 00:36:04,800
so basically, South Park's
my sex education.

719
00:36:04,840 --> 00:36:07,520
I've never touched a condom.

720
00:36:07,560 --> 00:36:10,240
The only thing I could know
about women's anatomy and stuff

721
00:36:10,280 --> 00:36:12,600
would be from TV, the internet, that
kind of thing.

722
00:36:12,640 --> 00:36:16,600
I feel like if it was a game,
I'm level one at intimacy

723
00:36:16,640 --> 00:36:19,040
and I'd love to be able to level up,
in a way.

724
00:36:19,080 --> 00:36:21,520
I sound like a virgin explaining
that. Oh, God.

725
00:36:21,560 --> 00:36:22,880
KNOCKING AT DOOR

726
00:36:22,920 --> 00:36:25,480
Come on in. So the experts have
planned a session

727
00:36:25,520 --> 00:36:27,840
on the basics of touch with Celeste.

728
00:36:27,880 --> 00:36:31,600
I've never really been
a touchy-feely person.

729
00:36:31,640 --> 00:36:32,760
Yeah.

730
00:36:32,800 --> 00:36:33,920
My family's like that, though.

731
00:36:33,960 --> 00:36:35,880
Like, my mum, she's never been
a touchy, huggy person,

732
00:36:35,920 --> 00:36:37,480
but I know she loves me
and I love her,

733
00:36:37,520 --> 00:36:40,360
but just can't do hugs,
it's just not in our nature.

734
00:36:40,400 --> 00:36:43,480
I want to try putting my hand
on top of your hand

735
00:36:43,520 --> 00:36:45,160
and see how that feels. More...

736
00:36:45,200 --> 00:36:47,160
More intimate, yeah.

737
00:36:47,200 --> 00:36:50,360
Exactly. So I could scooch to you...

738
00:36:50,400 --> 00:36:51,680
After this morning's workshop,

739
00:36:51,720 --> 00:36:55,160
Celeste wants to learn more about
the real Jason behind the humour.

740
00:36:55,200 --> 00:36:57,440
Let's take some steps, you know.
Yeah.

741
00:36:57,480 --> 00:36:59,960
And we can see, like, do you like
putting your hand on mine,

742
00:37:00,000 --> 00:37:02,600
do you like me putting my hand on
yours, for example?

743
00:37:02,640 --> 00:37:04,280
So do you want to start? Shall I?

744
00:37:04,320 --> 00:37:06,880
Yeah, just put it on there.
Like that? Yeah.

745
00:37:06,920 --> 00:37:09,960
Is it OK? Like,
does the sensation feel good?

746
00:37:10,000 --> 00:37:13,080
It's OK, yeah.

747
00:37:13,120 --> 00:37:16,600
OK. So can we try it where I put my
hand on your hand? OK, yeah.

748
00:37:20,920 --> 00:37:24,360
OK. I feel like because it's
happening to me, it's like...

749
00:37:24,400 --> 00:37:26,560
A little overwhelming? Yeah.

750
00:37:26,600 --> 00:37:27,880
Yeah.

751
00:37:27,920 --> 00:37:31,360
Feeling uncomfortable
receiving touch...

752
00:37:31,400 --> 00:37:32,520
When I work in offices and stuff,

753
00:37:32,560 --> 00:37:35,960
I'm a bit worried that I'm a bit too
firm with handshakes. Mm-hmm.

754
00:37:36,000 --> 00:37:39,040
..Jason takes matters into his
own hands.

755
00:37:39,080 --> 00:37:42,360
Right. Like that?

756
00:37:43,320 --> 00:37:45,120
That feels good. Is that OK?

757
00:37:45,160 --> 00:37:48,720
I would even, like, let our palms
touch a little bit more.

758
00:37:49,760 --> 00:37:50,840
OK.

759
00:37:50,880 --> 00:37:54,200
Like that? Do you feel more
like, more...? Yeah, OK.

760
00:37:54,240 --> 00:37:55,440
That kind of touch? Yeah.

761
00:37:55,480 --> 00:37:57,760
On safer territory...

762
00:37:57,800 --> 00:38:00,320
It feels so limp. You can give a
little bit more pressure. One more?

763
00:38:00,360 --> 00:38:02,360
Yeah, let's do one more.
..Jason's flying.

764
00:38:02,400 --> 00:38:03,960
Like that?

765
00:38:04,000 --> 00:38:05,600
That was beautiful.

766
00:38:05,640 --> 00:38:06,840
Success!

767
00:38:06,880 --> 00:38:10,400
I was shitting myself, because I had
no idea what I was in for.

768
00:38:10,440 --> 00:38:12,240
Thank you.

769
00:38:12,280 --> 00:38:14,800
But I think it's just getting more
intimate with touch.

770
00:38:14,840 --> 00:38:18,160
I want to be improved, I want to be
cured.

771
00:38:27,120 --> 00:38:28,600
Who wants a butt plug?

772
00:38:28,640 --> 00:38:29,960
I don't want to touch it.

773
00:38:30,000 --> 00:38:31,280
I don't think this has been
inside...

774
00:38:31,320 --> 00:38:33,680
I don't know if it's been
inside anyone.

775
00:38:33,720 --> 00:38:37,000
To encourage the group
to broaden their sexual horizons...

776
00:38:37,040 --> 00:38:39,840
A couple more butt plugs,
I'll be like Wolverine.

777
00:38:39,880 --> 00:38:42,560
..the experts have handed over
a box of sex toys...

778
00:38:42,600 --> 00:38:44,880
Ooh, these are fun.

779
00:38:44,920 --> 00:38:48,280
If that's up your butt
and you fart with enough power,

780
00:38:48,320 --> 00:38:51,240
could you actually blow it out?

781
00:38:51,280 --> 00:38:53,200
..and left them to explore.

782
00:38:53,240 --> 00:38:54,800
Who wants to be tied up?

783
00:38:54,840 --> 00:38:56,920
Go on, then.
You know, you'd be in the bed

784
00:38:56,960 --> 00:38:58,920
and this would be tied to,
like, the thingy. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

785
00:38:58,960 --> 00:39:01,440
It's just helped reinforce
for me that when I have sex,

786
00:39:01,480 --> 00:39:04,480
it's going to be vanilla,
just vanilla sex for me.

787
00:39:04,520 --> 00:39:06,720
I'm going to leave you like that
now.

788
00:39:06,760 --> 00:39:08,320
Charlotte!

789
00:39:12,120 --> 00:39:13,280
Who wants the feather?

790
00:39:13,320 --> 00:39:15,160
Yeah.

791
00:39:15,200 --> 00:39:17,200
How does it feel?

792
00:39:17,240 --> 00:39:20,440
Makes me feel like I'm being stroked
by a chicken.

793
00:39:20,480 --> 00:39:25,480
I want to lose my virginity
on the retreat, absolutely.

794
00:39:25,520 --> 00:39:27,280
All of the shame

795
00:39:27,320 --> 00:39:30,160
and the self-criticism
that come with being a virgin,

796
00:39:30,200 --> 00:39:32,600
my hope would be that afterwards,
that would be gone

797
00:39:32,640 --> 00:39:33,920
because you're not any more,

798
00:39:33,960 --> 00:39:37,240
you don't have to put this label on
yourself any more.

799
00:39:41,200 --> 00:39:45,400
So far, Zac has adapted quickly to
the course.

800
00:39:45,440 --> 00:39:48,360
Comfortable with hugs?
Absolutely, yeah, yeah, yeah.

801
00:39:48,400 --> 00:39:53,640
Zac is starting to stand taller,
he's more confident.

802
00:39:53,680 --> 00:39:55,680
Please have a seat.

803
00:39:55,720 --> 00:39:58,160
And after our last session,
I think he's ready

804
00:39:58,200 --> 00:40:00,600
for our most advanced therapy

805
00:40:00,640 --> 00:40:03,080
working with a surrogate partner,

806
00:40:03,120 --> 00:40:07,800
a highly trained therapist
able to have sex with a client.

807
00:40:07,840 --> 00:40:09,600
Today, I'm here to give you

808
00:40:09,640 --> 00:40:13,000
the introduction
into surrogate partner therapy -

809
00:40:13,040 --> 00:40:16,160
what my role is, what Kat's role is,

810
00:40:16,200 --> 00:40:20,040
and you know a little bit about how
this process works.

811
00:40:20,080 --> 00:40:24,000
Surrogate partner therapy
has been around for quite a while

812
00:40:24,040 --> 00:40:28,880
and it involves a therapist,
a client and a surrogate partner.

813
00:40:28,920 --> 00:40:30,640
It starts pretty slow
with clothes on,

814
00:40:30,680 --> 00:40:32,240
embodiment exercises,

815
00:40:32,280 --> 00:40:34,200
just while we're kind
of like getting used to each other

816
00:40:34,240 --> 00:40:36,560
and I can learn what you like,
and vice versa.

817
00:40:36,600 --> 00:40:40,480
The surrogate is helping them
explore what it feels like

818
00:40:40,520 --> 00:40:42,800
to take your clothes off
with someone,

819
00:40:42,840 --> 00:40:47,120
what it feels like
to touch someone in an erotic way,

820
00:40:47,160 --> 00:40:52,080
and can go all the way
to a full sexual experience.

821
00:40:52,120 --> 00:40:56,000
As you're comfortable, we'll
move to more organic encounters,

822
00:40:56,040 --> 00:40:58,520
kissing, oral, intercourse.

823
00:40:58,560 --> 00:41:02,080
It will eventually feel like just
practising different sexual skills.

824
00:41:02,120 --> 00:41:03,800
That's the gist, yeah.

825
00:41:03,840 --> 00:41:05,720
OK, cool, got it.

826
00:41:05,760 --> 00:41:09,680
This is a container for you
to practise a relationship.

827
00:41:09,720 --> 00:41:13,920
So I am a licensed
mental health clinician.

828
00:41:13,960 --> 00:41:15,440
You will be working with me

829
00:41:15,480 --> 00:41:17,920
with regards to any emotions that
come up,

830
00:41:17,960 --> 00:41:19,840
and that's my side of the street.

831
00:41:19,880 --> 00:41:23,600
Got it. I'm going to let you two
have the remainder of the session.

832
00:41:23,640 --> 00:41:26,520
I will see you guys soon,
take care.

833
00:41:26,560 --> 00:41:29,600
Is there anything else you
want to talk about

834
00:41:29,640 --> 00:41:32,640
before we move to some body work?

835
00:41:34,080 --> 00:41:37,160
I don't think so, no, I'm good.
OK, I'm going to have you lie down.

836
00:41:37,200 --> 00:41:39,400
Mm-hmm.

837
00:41:39,440 --> 00:41:40,680
So I'm going to touch you first,

838
00:41:40,720 --> 00:41:42,840
and I'm only going to touch your
arm

839
00:41:42,880 --> 00:41:45,640
and I'm going to use my hands,
my arms,

840
00:41:45,680 --> 00:41:48,280
my face and my hair, if that's OK?
Yeah.

841
00:41:52,560 --> 00:41:54,400
HE LAUGHS

842
00:41:54,440 --> 00:41:56,760
VOICEOVER: I think it's really
important

843
00:41:56,800 --> 00:41:58,560
to teach people how to have sex -

844
00:41:58,600 --> 00:42:01,880
teaching, like, really basic
relationship skills,

845
00:42:01,920 --> 00:42:03,360
then clothes come off,

846
00:42:03,400 --> 00:42:05,520
things get more erotic.

847
00:42:05,560 --> 00:42:08,320
Helping people be human again,

848
00:42:08,360 --> 00:42:10,920
it makes me want to do my job.

849
00:42:13,280 --> 00:42:15,480
Whilst sex is the ultimate aim,

850
00:42:15,520 --> 00:42:18,840
Zac must build a connection with Kat
before getting to that level.

851
00:42:28,200 --> 00:42:29,840
How was that?

852
00:42:29,880 --> 00:42:33,800
It was good. I was tingly,
but in a good way.

853
00:42:33,840 --> 00:42:35,400
Are you ready to switch?

854
00:42:35,440 --> 00:42:38,200
Mm-hmm. Yeah? Let's go.

855
00:42:46,720 --> 00:42:48,840
A surrogate partner bond...

856
00:42:48,880 --> 00:42:52,240
Really make sure you're feeling
what feels good.

857
00:42:55,120 --> 00:42:58,600
..takes time to nurture,
like any relationship.

858
00:43:04,960 --> 00:43:06,880
I think we're done.

859
00:43:06,920 --> 00:43:09,240
You're done? Yeah, yeah.

860
00:43:10,680 --> 00:43:15,920
What came up just then
that made you feel like stopping?

861
00:43:15,960 --> 00:43:19,640
I think, you know, touching your arm
is great, it feels amazing.

862
00:43:19,680 --> 00:43:21,560
It's just, obviously, I want more.

863
00:43:21,600 --> 00:43:23,520
Ah, OK. But it's a process.

864
00:43:23,560 --> 00:43:25,480
You know that I wouldn't do
more than that

865
00:43:25,520 --> 00:43:27,800
on a first session with anybody.

866
00:43:27,840 --> 00:43:29,720
The speed of the surrogate programme

867
00:43:29,760 --> 00:43:32,360
doesn't seem
to be moving fast enough for Zac.

868
00:43:32,400 --> 00:43:35,920
So, how far are you wanting to go
with surrogate partner therapy?

869
00:43:35,960 --> 00:43:37,120
I would like to go all the way.

870
00:43:37,160 --> 00:43:39,240
I would love to have sex with you,
you know.

871
00:43:39,280 --> 00:43:41,600
It's why I came here, really.
Yeah.

872
00:43:41,640 --> 00:43:43,920
It's hard to connect
with someone you've just met,

873
00:43:43,960 --> 00:43:47,160
telling you, "Hey, I'm your
surrogate. You will be eventually,

874
00:43:47,200 --> 00:43:49,480
"maybe, if you want,
having sex with me. "

875
00:43:49,520 --> 00:43:52,120
So, let's stand up.

876
00:43:52,160 --> 00:43:53,840
Let's just shake it all out.

877
00:43:55,120 --> 00:43:57,480
But I do think that I'll be able
lose my virginity,

878
00:43:57,520 --> 00:44:02,120
you know, have sex with Kat
eventually. I would like to.

879
00:44:08,040 --> 00:44:10,240
Zac, how was it?
Yeah, so we were doing arm touching.

880
00:44:10,280 --> 00:44:11,320
It was, like, intense.

881
00:44:11,360 --> 00:44:15,560
Like, I didn't realise I'd have that
strong of a reaction, to be honest.

882
00:44:15,600 --> 00:44:17,640
You know, maybe I'll lose my
virginity very soon,

883
00:44:17,680 --> 00:44:21,280
but, yeah, a very positive
experience, I think.

884
00:44:25,120 --> 00:44:27,000
Ready, guys?

885
00:44:27,040 --> 00:44:28,720
Oh, we're down here with a big fire.

886
00:44:28,760 --> 00:44:31,520
After two days at the retreat...
Ready, guys?

887
00:44:31,560 --> 00:44:34,200
..the first phase of
the course is drawing to a close.

888
00:44:34,240 --> 00:44:36,600
Shame bonfire is a culmination

889
00:44:36,640 --> 00:44:40,720
of everything that we've done in
the first phase.

890
00:44:40,760 --> 00:44:44,880
It's a chance for them to get rid of
their shame items from yesterday

891
00:44:44,920 --> 00:44:46,000
and move on.

892
00:44:50,680 --> 00:44:52,320
We're going to call you up one at
a time

893
00:44:52,360 --> 00:44:54,760
to let these old stories
about yourselves

894
00:44:54,800 --> 00:44:57,720
and these old ways of thinking
and being go.

895
00:44:57,760 --> 00:45:00,760
And I am so delighted for you.

896
00:45:00,800 --> 00:45:03,320
OK.

897
00:45:03,360 --> 00:45:05,200
Are you ready to let it go?

898
00:45:05,240 --> 00:45:06,360
Yes!

899
00:45:07,560 --> 00:45:10,680
OTHERS: Let it go! Let it go!

900
00:45:10,720 --> 00:45:12,720
CHEERING

901
00:45:12,760 --> 00:45:14,320
Let it go! Let it go! Let it go!

902
00:45:14,360 --> 00:45:15,920
The act of burning something

903
00:45:15,960 --> 00:45:19,960
is the act of letting go
and saying, "I can change now."

904
00:45:20,000 --> 00:45:21,800
Ready? Let it go! Let it go!

905
00:45:21,840 --> 00:45:23,120
It felt really good

906
00:45:23,160 --> 00:45:26,600
to be able to release all my
feelings into the fire.

907
00:45:26,640 --> 00:45:29,280
I feel a lot more confident.

908
00:45:29,320 --> 00:45:32,920
It's like a whole refresh
of emotions.

909
00:45:32,960 --> 00:45:35,440
Let it go! Let it go!

910
00:45:35,480 --> 00:45:36,480
Let it go!

911
00:45:36,520 --> 00:45:38,280
CHEERING

912
00:45:38,320 --> 00:45:40,680
I was stuck in a rut,
stuck in my way of thinking.

913
00:45:40,720 --> 00:45:43,200
And I think this is my
opportunity now

914
00:45:43,240 --> 00:45:45,520
to really change that.

915
00:45:47,200 --> 00:45:50,760
I'm keen to fill in more of
the gaps. Woohoo!

916
00:45:53,680 --> 00:45:56,640
Next time... You're quite
attractive, so I mean, you know...

917
00:45:56,680 --> 00:45:59,600
..things heat up on
the touch phase of the course.

918
00:45:59,640 --> 00:46:01,320
Mmm.

919
00:46:01,360 --> 00:46:07,280
There's another animal here
with you on this rug. Ohhh.

920
00:46:07,320 --> 00:46:08,800
It was like watching a porno.

921
00:46:08,840 --> 00:46:11,240
As emotions bubble over...

922
00:46:11,280 --> 00:46:13,720
I just don't want anyone
to touch me.

923
00:46:13,760 --> 00:46:15,800
Can I just have one minute?

924
00:46:18,400 --> 00:46:20,800
..when things turn physical.

925
00:46:20,840 --> 00:46:23,200
I can touch your breasts?
You can, yeah.

926
00:46:25,080 --> 00:46:27,920
Oh, yeah.

927
00:46:48,400 --> 00:46:50,960
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