"Virgin Island" Episode #1.5

1 00:00:02,000 --> 00:00:05,560 This programme contains strong language, nudity and scenes of a sexual nature 2 00:00:05,600 --> 00:00:06,920 The word virgin, 3 00:00:06,960 --> 00:00:08,800 people see it as a joke. 4 00:00:08,840 --> 00:00:10,640 It's quite upsetting. 5 00:00:13,080 --> 00:00:15,560 In a world where sex is everywhere... 6 00:00:15,600 --> 00:00:16,800 My God. 7 00:00:16,840 --> 00:00:18,600 ..the truth is surprising, 8 00:00:18,640 --> 00:00:21,280 there are more adult virgins than ever. 9 00:00:21,320 --> 00:00:24,800 Being a young adult in this day and age, it's difficult. 10 00:00:24,840 --> 00:00:26,280 Social media. Dating apps. 11 00:00:26,320 --> 00:00:27,320 TV shows. 12 00:00:27,360 --> 00:00:28,600 Porn. Porn. Porn. 13 00:00:28,640 --> 00:00:30,120 Porn is everywhere. 14 00:00:30,160 --> 00:00:33,200 Are you self-conscious about our genitals touching each other? 15 00:00:33,240 --> 00:00:34,400 Now... Yeah. 16 00:00:35,480 --> 00:00:37,200 ..at this radical retreat, 17 00:00:37,240 --> 00:00:41,080 intimacy experts are offering a very hands-on solution... 18 00:00:41,120 --> 00:00:42,200 Oh, yeah. 19 00:00:42,240 --> 00:00:43,520 She's a miracle worker. 20 00:00:43,560 --> 00:00:44,760 Woohoo. 21 00:00:44,800 --> 00:00:46,600 Like that? I like that. 22 00:00:46,640 --> 00:00:48,520 ..to help Britain's virgins... 23 00:00:48,560 --> 00:00:49,720 Mmm. 24 00:00:49,760 --> 00:00:51,360 ..lose the one thing... 25 00:00:51,400 --> 00:00:52,920 Do I make you nervous? 26 00:00:52,960 --> 00:00:54,680 ..they feel is holding them back. 27 00:00:54,720 --> 00:00:56,560 I want to lose my virginity. 28 00:00:56,600 --> 00:00:58,040 It's now or never. 29 00:00:59,080 --> 00:01:01,600 But when the moment arrives... 30 00:01:01,640 --> 00:01:03,880 Would you like to move to the bed? 31 00:01:03,920 --> 00:01:04,920 ..who will be ready... 32 00:01:06,120 --> 00:01:08,680 I just don't want anyone to touch me. 33 00:01:08,720 --> 00:01:11,080 ..to go all the way? 34 00:01:12,080 --> 00:01:13,560 You're so sexy. 35 00:01:13,600 --> 00:01:14,600 Yeah, so good. 36 00:01:22,080 --> 00:01:24,360 On the previous phase of the course... 37 00:01:24,400 --> 00:01:25,440 This is my body. 38 00:01:25,480 --> 00:01:26,680 CHEERING 39 00:01:26,720 --> 00:01:28,600 ..the group faced their body hang-ups. 40 00:01:29,840 --> 00:01:31,200 This is my body. 41 00:01:32,560 --> 00:01:34,560 ..and had an anatomy lesson. 42 00:01:34,600 --> 00:01:36,920 Down here is the vaginal opening. 43 00:01:38,320 --> 00:01:41,480 It inspired Dave to begin intimate touching... 44 00:01:41,520 --> 00:01:44,440 I think today was the biggest thing I've done so far. 45 00:01:45,400 --> 00:01:46,400 ..while Zac... 46 00:01:46,440 --> 00:01:48,480 I would love to have sex with you. 47 00:01:48,520 --> 00:01:51,920 ..is eager to move things on with surrogate partner Kat. 48 00:01:51,960 --> 00:01:53,880 I'm feeling a little bit of frustration. 49 00:01:55,120 --> 00:01:57,840 And even though Emma is finding her flirty side... 50 00:01:57,880 --> 00:01:59,240 Oh, that's so sweet. 51 00:01:59,280 --> 00:02:01,400 Turning me on a little bit. Really? 52 00:02:01,440 --> 00:02:02,880 ..one thing eludes her. 53 00:02:02,920 --> 00:02:05,960 I've never masturbated or experienced an orgasm. 54 00:02:07,080 --> 00:02:08,080 Now... 55 00:02:08,120 --> 00:02:10,920 You can just start with your fingers... 56 00:02:10,960 --> 00:02:14,520 Right. ..and then work your way up to the vibrator. 57 00:02:14,560 --> 00:02:17,520 ..the course is heading towards its climax. 58 00:02:17,560 --> 00:02:20,160 Orgasms can come in different ways. 59 00:02:20,200 --> 00:02:23,520 If you don't know how to orgasm, you just won't be able 60 00:02:23,560 --> 00:02:26,240 to share erotic energy with someone else. 61 00:02:28,000 --> 00:02:34,074 62 00:02:36,560 --> 00:02:37,560 Morning, boys, you all right? 63 00:02:37,600 --> 00:02:38,600 Yeah, you all right? 64 00:02:38,640 --> 00:02:40,640 Is that French toast? Oh, it's not, no. 65 00:02:40,680 --> 00:02:43,520 It's another morning on Virgin Island... 66 00:02:43,560 --> 00:02:45,160 Oh, no, my cheese. 67 00:02:45,200 --> 00:02:46,600 ..and the next phase of the course 68 00:02:46,640 --> 00:02:48,200 will be a first for some of the group... 69 00:02:49,560 --> 00:02:52,040 ..learning about the elusive orgasm. 70 00:02:54,920 --> 00:02:55,920 Great. 71 00:02:57,840 --> 00:02:58,960 Oh, man. 72 00:02:59,000 --> 00:03:03,520 So far, I've found the course actually quite life-changing, 73 00:03:03,560 --> 00:03:05,320 but I think it's going to be difficult for me, 74 00:03:05,360 --> 00:03:07,840 cos I've never experienced an orgasm. 75 00:03:10,520 --> 00:03:11,520 Oh, my. 76 00:03:13,440 --> 00:03:14,680 I'm ready for it. 77 00:03:14,720 --> 00:03:17,080 Part of my own, sort of, ego, I guess, 78 00:03:17,120 --> 00:03:20,440 would be knowing how to please a woman. 79 00:03:22,120 --> 00:03:24,800 In order to reach that sexual peak... 80 00:03:24,840 --> 00:03:26,440 Good morning. Good morning. 81 00:03:26,480 --> 00:03:27,640 Hello. 82 00:03:27,680 --> 00:03:28,680 Hello. 83 00:03:28,720 --> 00:03:31,160 ..Celeste and Danielle are first going to teach them 84 00:03:31,200 --> 00:03:34,920 a few positions to raise confidence in the bedroom. 85 00:03:37,360 --> 00:03:41,320 So, in this next exercise, we're going to help you 86 00:03:41,360 --> 00:03:45,800 get skilful moving bodies around in a smooth, fluid way. 87 00:03:45,840 --> 00:03:51,840 And also add a little bit of passionate talk. 88 00:03:51,880 --> 00:03:53,680 So, just one sentence somewhere along 89 00:03:53,720 --> 00:03:54,760 the line you can say, 90 00:03:54,800 --> 00:03:57,520 "You're so sexy," or "I love touching you", 91 00:03:57,560 --> 00:03:58,640 or, "You're so hot." 92 00:03:58,680 --> 00:04:00,520 Just something that has passion in it. 93 00:04:02,400 --> 00:04:04,040 You ready to see the demo? 94 00:04:06,720 --> 00:04:09,840 First, there's the sideways missionary. 95 00:04:09,880 --> 00:04:11,320 You're so gorgeous. 96 00:04:11,360 --> 00:04:12,360 Mmm. 97 00:04:14,160 --> 00:04:15,800 Then they switch to cowgirl. 98 00:04:20,280 --> 00:04:22,640 Next, it's the secondary missionary. 99 00:04:27,600 --> 00:04:30,640 And finally, the leapfrog. 100 00:04:38,960 --> 00:04:40,280 And that's how it's done. 101 00:04:44,320 --> 00:04:47,240 So, who wants to try it? 102 00:04:47,280 --> 00:04:48,280 I'll do it. 103 00:04:48,320 --> 00:04:49,320 GROUP CHEERS 104 00:04:51,000 --> 00:04:54,920 So far, Zac has been the most eager in the group. 105 00:04:54,960 --> 00:04:57,440 Right, starting position. 106 00:04:57,480 --> 00:04:59,520 Starting position is relaxing. 107 00:04:59,560 --> 00:05:01,800 THEY LAUGH 108 00:05:01,840 --> 00:05:03,560 Yeah, right. Yeah, right. 109 00:05:03,600 --> 00:05:06,200 Yeah, just stay for a moment to connect. 110 00:05:07,320 --> 00:05:08,320 Good. 111 00:05:09,760 --> 00:05:10,800 Sexy. 112 00:05:10,840 --> 00:05:13,400 Very. Yeah. 113 00:05:13,440 --> 00:05:15,200 I'm a lucky boy. 114 00:05:15,240 --> 00:05:16,720 Yeah, like that. 115 00:05:16,760 --> 00:05:17,760 Good. 116 00:05:18,760 --> 00:05:20,040 Good. 117 00:05:20,080 --> 00:05:21,080 Fantastic. 118 00:05:22,920 --> 00:05:26,160 Ahhhhh. 119 00:05:26,200 --> 00:05:28,040 Oh, that feels good. 120 00:05:28,080 --> 00:05:29,240 Like that? Mm-hm. 121 00:05:29,280 --> 00:05:30,440 THEY CHUCKLE 122 00:05:31,720 --> 00:05:32,960 Good. Love it. 123 00:05:34,240 --> 00:05:36,040 Ahhhh. 124 00:05:49,000 --> 00:05:50,480 Woohoo. 125 00:05:53,720 --> 00:05:55,360 OK, who's next? 126 00:06:01,440 --> 00:06:03,160 Yeah, I'll do it. Yeah, I'll do it. 127 00:06:05,560 --> 00:06:07,120 As the course has progresses, 128 00:06:07,160 --> 00:06:08,720 Dave is slowly but surely learning 129 00:06:08,760 --> 00:06:11,760 the skills to turn his love life around. 130 00:06:11,800 --> 00:06:13,680 I've gotten to the point where I'm sitting at home 131 00:06:13,720 --> 00:06:16,720 every weekend just doing nothing. 132 00:06:16,760 --> 00:06:19,080 I wanna go out and meet someone. 133 00:06:19,120 --> 00:06:20,960 I want that level of intimacy with someone. 134 00:06:23,520 --> 00:06:26,280 It feels really nice to be here with you. 135 00:06:28,720 --> 00:06:31,240 You've got great eyes. Mmm. 136 00:06:31,280 --> 00:06:33,400 You are very sexy. 137 00:06:35,240 --> 00:06:36,840 Yeah. 138 00:06:38,440 --> 00:06:40,600 Mmm, that feels really good. 139 00:06:40,640 --> 00:06:41,640 Mmmm. 140 00:06:45,360 --> 00:06:47,000 Ooh, I like that. 141 00:06:47,040 --> 00:06:48,360 Mmmm. 142 00:06:50,880 --> 00:06:52,680 Yeah. 143 00:06:54,160 --> 00:06:56,000 Yes, oh, yes. 144 00:06:59,560 --> 00:07:00,840 Exactly. 145 00:07:06,800 --> 00:07:08,160 You rocked it. 146 00:07:09,520 --> 00:07:11,760 It was surprisingly comfortable. 147 00:07:11,800 --> 00:07:13,560 In my head, I thought it was going to be a lot more awkward. 148 00:07:15,560 --> 00:07:17,840 When the group arrived on the island... 149 00:07:17,880 --> 00:07:20,120 Yes, fantastic. 150 00:07:20,160 --> 00:07:23,440 ..they were too self-conscious to relax into intimacy. 151 00:07:23,480 --> 00:07:24,920 OK. This is another good one. 152 00:07:24,960 --> 00:07:25,960 Like that? Oh, yeah. 153 00:07:26,000 --> 00:07:27,000 I like that. 154 00:07:29,640 --> 00:07:31,200 I love your lips. 155 00:07:31,240 --> 00:07:32,600 Yours are nice, too. 156 00:07:32,640 --> 00:07:33,960 Thank you. 157 00:07:34,000 --> 00:07:35,000 Now... 158 00:07:35,040 --> 00:07:36,480 And then you flip me over. 159 00:07:36,520 --> 00:07:37,520 Like? Exactly. 160 00:07:39,160 --> 00:07:41,800 ..they're gaining the knowledge to enjoy themselves. 161 00:07:42,920 --> 00:07:43,960 You're fucking sexy. 162 00:07:44,000 --> 00:07:45,120 Oh, gosh. 163 00:07:45,160 --> 00:07:46,920 Love that. 164 00:07:46,960 --> 00:07:48,120 You don't like compliments? 165 00:07:48,160 --> 00:07:50,480 No. You can tell me I'm doing well. 166 00:07:50,520 --> 00:07:52,080 That's different. OK. 167 00:07:52,120 --> 00:07:54,160 Like, "You're such a good girl?" 168 00:07:54,200 --> 00:07:55,280 No! 169 00:08:03,360 --> 00:08:05,200 Anyone else ready? 170 00:08:05,240 --> 00:08:07,640 Yeah, fuck it, let's do it. 171 00:08:07,680 --> 00:08:09,360 Oh, God. 172 00:08:09,400 --> 00:08:10,680 So far on the course, 173 00:08:10,720 --> 00:08:14,480 Emma hasn't embraced many of the physical exercises. 174 00:08:14,520 --> 00:08:19,280 I am uncomfortable with the idea of sex. 175 00:08:19,320 --> 00:08:22,200 I would like to be able to have the confidence to be able 176 00:08:22,240 --> 00:08:25,800 to overcome my fear, but it's just so awkward. 177 00:08:25,840 --> 00:08:27,320 If I ever experienced sex, 178 00:08:27,360 --> 00:08:28,560 I would be so lost. 179 00:08:28,600 --> 00:08:29,840 I wouldn't have a clue. 180 00:08:35,000 --> 00:08:37,040 You can tell me when you feel ready. 181 00:08:38,040 --> 00:08:39,680 Yup. 182 00:08:39,720 --> 00:08:40,960 Take your time. 183 00:08:41,000 --> 00:08:42,960 I'm ready. You're ready? Yeah. OK. 184 00:08:43,000 --> 00:08:45,120 I'm going to do it nice and slow. 185 00:08:46,960 --> 00:08:48,480 Yeah? Mm-hm. 186 00:08:55,680 --> 00:08:57,680 So get yourself settled there. 187 00:09:00,400 --> 00:09:02,040 You can touch back. 188 00:09:02,080 --> 00:09:04,040 Yeah, feel free. 189 00:09:04,080 --> 00:09:07,080 OK, come down here to me. 190 00:09:07,120 --> 00:09:08,920 Down here. 191 00:09:08,960 --> 00:09:11,000 Hmmm. There we go. 192 00:09:11,040 --> 00:09:12,960 Oh. That's perfect. 193 00:09:13,000 --> 00:09:14,040 Perfect. 194 00:09:16,960 --> 00:09:18,560 Hmmm. 195 00:09:24,800 --> 00:09:25,920 You want a little tap? 196 00:09:25,960 --> 00:09:28,120 Mm-hm. Why not? 197 00:09:28,160 --> 00:09:29,520 Woo. 198 00:09:34,080 --> 00:09:35,080 Wow. 199 00:09:37,480 --> 00:09:38,600 You all right? 200 00:09:45,840 --> 00:09:48,440 That was a massive step up from what we usually do. Yeah. 201 00:09:48,480 --> 00:09:50,440 I mean, you, you were definitely the dominant one. 202 00:09:50,480 --> 00:09:52,400 Exactly, I was having a good time as well. 203 00:09:52,440 --> 00:09:54,000 All that being thrown around. 204 00:09:55,280 --> 00:09:57,360 You, yours was the hardest to watch, 205 00:09:57,400 --> 00:09:59,240 only cos of how intimate it was, do you know what I mean? 206 00:09:59,280 --> 00:10:01,400 Yeah. Honestly, it was proper like softcore porn. 207 00:10:01,440 --> 00:10:02,440 Yeah. 208 00:10:04,520 --> 00:10:05,520 Did you get a boner? 209 00:10:05,560 --> 00:10:06,840 Yeah, of course I did. You did, yeah? 210 00:10:06,880 --> 00:10:08,000 Yeah, dude. 211 00:10:09,400 --> 00:10:13,200 I found the workshop a little bit tough. 212 00:10:13,240 --> 00:10:15,200 I thought that I was ready for it, 213 00:10:15,240 --> 00:10:17,800 but once I was on the bed with Celeste, 214 00:10:17,840 --> 00:10:19,760 I don't think I was. 215 00:10:19,800 --> 00:10:21,840 I mean, I'm glad that I gave it a go, 216 00:10:21,880 --> 00:10:25,720 but I just think I was like a dead, limp fish. 217 00:10:25,760 --> 00:10:27,160 I think, with Emma, 218 00:10:27,200 --> 00:10:28,960 I was a little bit surprised when she said 219 00:10:29,000 --> 00:10:30,720 she wanted to do the positions. 220 00:10:30,760 --> 00:10:32,560 It was still a little bit too much for her. 221 00:10:32,600 --> 00:10:36,360 I also think that she maybe doesn't know what she likes, 222 00:10:36,400 --> 00:10:40,920 {\an8}so maybe some work supporting her to discover more of her body. 223 00:10:40,960 --> 00:10:42,920 Yeah. We're going to talk with all the women 224 00:10:42,960 --> 00:10:45,520 about their masturbation practises, 225 00:10:45,560 --> 00:10:50,360 because my mission is for all of them to have orgasms 226 00:10:50,400 --> 00:10:51,800 before they leave the island. 227 00:10:53,480 --> 00:10:54,840 To do that, 228 00:10:54,880 --> 00:10:57,720 the experts decide to give the girls a lesson in pleasuring... 229 00:10:57,760 --> 00:11:00,480 Hey, beauties! THEY SHOUT GREETINGS 230 00:11:00,520 --> 00:11:02,320 ..self-pleasuring. 231 00:11:02,360 --> 00:11:06,160 So, here we have a box of toys. 232 00:11:06,200 --> 00:11:10,440 This is an opportunity to find pleasure with yourself. 233 00:11:10,480 --> 00:11:13,760 A lot of times, women don't even know that self-pleasure is for them, 234 00:11:13,800 --> 00:11:15,520 they don't even think about masturbating, 235 00:11:15,560 --> 00:11:18,520 and a lot of women are, like, hesitant to even try it. 236 00:11:18,560 --> 00:11:21,440 But, if you learn the experience of orgasm for yourself, 237 00:11:21,480 --> 00:11:24,920 you actually have a much easier time doing it with a partner. 238 00:11:24,960 --> 00:11:26,560 These little pulse vibrators, 239 00:11:26,600 --> 00:11:29,480 you have quite even distribution of vibration. 240 00:11:29,520 --> 00:11:31,160 These tongue-like toys 241 00:11:31,200 --> 00:11:35,000 are for moving up and down the front of your vulva. 242 00:11:36,040 --> 00:11:39,160 Don't just hold the toy there and lie limp, 243 00:11:39,200 --> 00:11:43,880 in order to have an orgasm, the blood has to move to your genitals, 244 00:11:43,920 --> 00:11:47,360 and moving makes a huge difference. 245 00:11:47,400 --> 00:11:49,760 I do it. I miss my box at home. 246 00:11:49,800 --> 00:11:52,520 THEY LAUGH Ah! 247 00:11:52,560 --> 00:11:54,160 Your pleasure box! 248 00:11:54,200 --> 00:11:57,160 It's an opportunity to explore, like, what feels good for you. 249 00:11:57,200 --> 00:12:01,040 And, like, being able to build an association of 250 00:12:01,080 --> 00:12:03,040 "I have fun with my body. " 251 00:12:03,080 --> 00:12:05,280 So, are we keeping these? Taking them back to our cabins? 252 00:12:05,320 --> 00:12:06,640 Yeah, babe! 253 00:12:06,680 --> 00:12:09,400 You can choose between you which one you want to take. 254 00:12:09,440 --> 00:12:10,440 I want this one. 255 00:12:10,480 --> 00:12:12,200 THEY LAUGH 256 00:12:13,800 --> 00:12:16,000 Questions. Tell me. 257 00:12:16,040 --> 00:12:19,280 Like, whether this would work for me? 258 00:12:19,320 --> 00:12:21,600 Like, could I get pleasure from this? 259 00:12:21,640 --> 00:12:23,240 This will work for you. 260 00:12:25,640 --> 00:12:29,480 OK, see you later, have fun! Thank you! Bye. 261 00:12:29,520 --> 00:12:30,680 What one are you having, T? 262 00:12:30,720 --> 00:12:32,400 I haven't decided. 263 00:12:32,440 --> 00:12:35,120 Ooh, that one works! 264 00:12:35,160 --> 00:12:36,480 It's like a little fan. 265 00:12:36,520 --> 00:12:38,560 It is like a little fan. 266 00:12:38,600 --> 00:12:39,800 Right, OK. 267 00:12:39,840 --> 00:12:43,320 LAUGHING: OK, I'm going to go and "read my book!" 268 00:12:44,320 --> 00:12:46,080 SHE LAUGHS 269 00:12:46,120 --> 00:12:50,000 With batteries charged, the girls head off for some privacy, 270 00:12:50,040 --> 00:12:53,280 and Emma prepares to attempt her first-ever orgasm... 271 00:12:55,040 --> 00:12:56,960 Emma, it's Aisha. Hello. 272 00:12:57,000 --> 00:12:58,640 ..with one last tip from Aisha. 273 00:12:59,800 --> 00:13:00,960 Self-pleasuring without lube 274 00:13:01,000 --> 00:13:02,880 is like trying to tongue kiss without saliva. 275 00:13:02,920 --> 00:13:04,800 Oh, my god! SHE LAUGHS 276 00:13:07,160 --> 00:13:09,200 Someone's going to walk past and just hear loads of noise! 277 00:13:09,240 --> 00:13:11,360 VIBRATOR BUZZES 278 00:13:21,760 --> 00:13:25,000 Do it, do it! It's too cold! 279 00:13:25,040 --> 00:13:26,800 On this private island retreat... 280 00:13:28,080 --> 00:13:29,680 HE WHOOPS 281 00:13:29,720 --> 00:13:32,480 ..12 virgins have jumped in at the deep end... 282 00:13:32,520 --> 00:13:34,840 When you go on the rocks, be very careful you don't get cut up. 283 00:13:34,880 --> 00:13:36,600 I'm not going on the rocks. OK. 284 00:13:36,640 --> 00:13:37,840 I'm not as brave as Viraj. 285 00:13:42,200 --> 00:13:45,880 ..and Emma has taken her first steps into the world of self-pleasure. 286 00:13:46,920 --> 00:13:50,400 I did experiment with my vibrator for the first time. 287 00:13:50,440 --> 00:13:51,440 It was a little bit... 288 00:13:52,600 --> 00:13:53,880 ..uneasy at first - 289 00:13:53,920 --> 00:13:57,760 I think I was just getting used to the rhythm of my body 290 00:13:57,800 --> 00:13:59,520 and how things work, 291 00:13:59,560 --> 00:14:03,000 but I don't think I actually experienced an orgasm. 292 00:14:03,040 --> 00:14:04,080 I just... 293 00:14:04,120 --> 00:14:06,280 I think I just need to make myself feel more "sexy" 294 00:14:06,320 --> 00:14:07,400 in some sort of way. SHE LAUGHS 295 00:14:09,520 --> 00:14:11,840 As Emma works on her technique, 296 00:14:11,880 --> 00:14:14,320 Dave and Zac discuss it... 297 00:14:14,360 --> 00:14:16,400 I reckon there's loads of people who've had sex 298 00:14:16,440 --> 00:14:19,920 who are doing it horribly. Yeah, right. I think so. 299 00:14:19,960 --> 00:14:22,560 Because I there's no way my mates 300 00:14:22,600 --> 00:14:24,520 know all the shit that I've been taught. 301 00:14:25,800 --> 00:14:29,320 ..and one of the key tips for getting in the mood is good communication. 302 00:14:30,320 --> 00:14:31,920 Does that feel nice, or not? Yeah, it does. 303 00:14:31,960 --> 00:14:33,640 Could you do it a little bit lower, as well? 304 00:14:33,680 --> 00:14:35,600 Like, that's really nice, but a bit lower as well. 305 00:14:35,640 --> 00:14:38,040 Look at us communicating! 306 00:14:38,080 --> 00:14:39,560 Won't Danielle and Celeste be proud? 307 00:14:39,600 --> 00:14:40,960 Oh, yeah that's it. 308 00:14:41,000 --> 00:14:42,320 That's really nice. 309 00:14:42,360 --> 00:14:43,760 Oh, yeah! 310 00:14:43,800 --> 00:14:46,160 Now that Taylor has come out as gay, 311 00:14:46,200 --> 00:14:48,840 Celeste and Danielle have a new plan for her. 312 00:14:48,880 --> 00:14:52,600 It's all about de-shamifying what turns her on. 313 00:14:52,640 --> 00:14:54,720 She outed herself for liking a praise kink, 314 00:14:54,760 --> 00:14:56,480 she loved being called a 'good girl', 315 00:14:56,520 --> 00:14:58,000 which was very embarrassing for her... 316 00:14:58,040 --> 00:15:00,600 SHE LAUGHS ..so all of her work is to explore 317 00:15:00,640 --> 00:15:02,720 pleasure and sensation with a woman. 318 00:15:02,760 --> 00:15:04,240 Yeah, I think in session today, 319 00:15:04,280 --> 00:15:06,160 we'll just keep normalising her desire 320 00:15:06,200 --> 00:15:08,240 so she can learn what she likes, 321 00:15:08,280 --> 00:15:10,200 and to just have a chance to experience it. 322 00:15:12,960 --> 00:15:15,040 But first, surrogate partner Kat 323 00:15:15,080 --> 00:15:19,520 must help Taylor overcome her fear of intimacy and rejection. 324 00:15:19,560 --> 00:15:22,920 My biggest fear is that I finally have sex with someone 325 00:15:22,960 --> 00:15:24,520 and I'm really bad at it. 326 00:15:24,560 --> 00:15:27,200 Are they gonna then turn around and it will be my fault? And... 327 00:15:28,520 --> 00:15:30,360 Yeah, it's one of those where you just... 328 00:15:31,440 --> 00:15:33,280 You don't want to do it in case it goes wrong. 329 00:15:35,840 --> 00:15:37,920 I was thinking we could maybe try, like, 330 00:15:37,960 --> 00:15:39,640 something a little more organic. Mm-hm. 331 00:15:39,680 --> 00:15:42,360 Like maybe some, like, kissing and, like... Oh... ..moving. 332 00:15:42,400 --> 00:15:44,120 SHE LAUGHS Does that feel...?Um... 333 00:15:45,440 --> 00:15:47,240 Um... We can start slow. 334 00:15:47,280 --> 00:15:49,120 Yeah. Yeah. If we could start slow, 335 00:15:49,160 --> 00:15:51,400 because I've never kissed anyone sober, so... 336 00:15:51,440 --> 00:15:53,280 Never? No. 337 00:15:57,800 --> 00:15:59,360 Is that OK? Mm-hm. 338 00:16:02,520 --> 00:16:03,760 Are you sure? Mm-hm. 339 00:16:03,800 --> 00:16:07,320 I feel like this is, like, really nice, and we're really close, 340 00:16:07,360 --> 00:16:08,720 but I also feel like... 341 00:16:08,760 --> 00:16:11,120 I feel really not pretty, and I don't like... Oh... 342 00:16:11,160 --> 00:16:12,680 I know but, like... 343 00:16:16,560 --> 00:16:17,560 Thank you. 344 00:16:18,800 --> 00:16:21,840 I just feel, like...big and clunky and... 345 00:16:22,960 --> 00:16:25,600 It feels so good. SHE CHUCKLES 346 00:16:25,640 --> 00:16:28,720 Like, I promise you - it feels so good. 347 00:16:28,760 --> 00:16:30,480 Mm. 348 00:16:30,520 --> 00:16:31,840 Do you want to go on top of me? 349 00:16:34,160 --> 00:16:35,160 Can I try? 350 00:16:36,160 --> 00:16:38,440 It feels like you would be too pretty for me. 351 00:16:39,600 --> 00:16:41,760 I understand what you're thinking... Mm-hm. 352 00:16:41,800 --> 00:16:44,840 ..but I feel like you're wrong. You don't know what I like. 353 00:16:44,880 --> 00:16:47,640 I have a lot of desire, and what I'm thinking is - 354 00:16:47,680 --> 00:16:49,600 I'm wondering what's comfortable for you, 355 00:16:49,640 --> 00:16:51,880 and I'm wondering what you feel safe with, 356 00:16:51,920 --> 00:16:55,160 and I don't want my desire to be too much, as... 357 00:16:56,360 --> 00:16:58,640 THEY LAUGH 358 00:16:58,680 --> 00:17:00,840 Sorry, I panicked! THEY LAUGH 359 00:17:00,880 --> 00:17:03,120 That was excellent! THEY LAUGH 360 00:17:04,280 --> 00:17:05,520 You want more? 361 00:17:05,560 --> 00:17:06,640 I want more. 362 00:17:06,680 --> 00:17:09,080 THEY LAUGH I don't know. 363 00:17:34,280 --> 00:17:35,440 Fuck it. 364 00:17:35,480 --> 00:17:36,840 THEY CHUCKLE 365 00:17:44,800 --> 00:17:46,920 TAYLOR CHUCKLES 366 00:17:53,480 --> 00:17:55,760 TAYLOR CHUCKLES 367 00:18:10,080 --> 00:18:11,400 How did it go? 368 00:18:11,440 --> 00:18:13,000 Really good. Uh... SHE LAUGHS 369 00:18:14,200 --> 00:18:15,960 We kissed. Aw! 370 00:18:16,000 --> 00:18:17,520 We were, like, sat this far apart, 371 00:18:17,560 --> 00:18:21,080 literally just whispering at each other - like, really, really close - 372 00:18:21,120 --> 00:18:23,520 and that's when I started to feel really connected. 373 00:18:23,560 --> 00:18:24,960 I really, like, enjoyed it. 374 00:18:26,240 --> 00:18:27,680 When I arrived at the island, 375 00:18:27,720 --> 00:18:30,720 I felt scared. I felt scared of sex, I felt scared of my sexuality, 376 00:18:30,760 --> 00:18:33,720 and I felt scared of just everything to do with sex. 377 00:18:33,760 --> 00:18:36,560 But now I feel a lot more confident, I feel like I learned a lot, 378 00:18:36,600 --> 00:18:40,720 and, obviously, I feel a lot more gay! 379 00:18:40,760 --> 00:18:42,840 SHE LAUGHS 380 00:18:44,960 --> 00:18:47,360 So, what's your prostate? What's a prostate? 381 00:18:47,400 --> 00:18:48,720 It's, like, further up. 382 00:18:48,760 --> 00:18:51,320 Oh, I thought your prostate was your testicles. No. 383 00:18:51,360 --> 00:18:52,360 Oh, shit. 384 00:18:52,400 --> 00:18:53,600 But I got a B in biology. 385 00:18:55,200 --> 00:18:58,360 After Taylor experienced her first meaningful kiss... 386 00:18:58,400 --> 00:19:00,000 The only thing I haven't done before is kissing. Yeah. 387 00:19:00,040 --> 00:19:01,920 That's the only thing I want to know. Yeah. Kissing. 388 00:19:03,040 --> 00:19:05,120 ..Jason hopes to follow suit. 389 00:19:05,160 --> 00:19:06,440 Never kissed anyone. 390 00:19:06,480 --> 00:19:08,160 In my adult life, never kissed anyone. 391 00:19:08,200 --> 00:19:09,280 Ever. 392 00:19:09,320 --> 00:19:11,640 So, I know my first kiss is going to be sloppy and weird, 393 00:19:11,680 --> 00:19:13,200 and get my tongue, go "blurgh," 394 00:19:13,240 --> 00:19:14,640 that kind of thing. HE LAUGHS 395 00:19:14,680 --> 00:19:17,280 I can only imagine the horror...the horror of the first one. 396 00:19:18,480 --> 00:19:21,520 Having arrived at the retreat unable to even hug, 397 00:19:21,560 --> 00:19:23,840 Jason is conquering his fear of intimacy... 398 00:19:25,000 --> 00:19:27,840 ..so now, expert Joy wants to raise the stakes. 399 00:19:32,320 --> 00:19:36,600 What I want to do today is continue to feel the present moment,,, 400 00:19:36,640 --> 00:19:38,200 Mm-hm. ..while we connect. 401 00:19:38,240 --> 00:19:41,400 And we can practice also... Yeah. 402 00:19:41,440 --> 00:19:43,680 ..taking clothes off, if you feel comfortable. 403 00:19:43,720 --> 00:19:44,800 I can do that, yeah. 404 00:19:44,840 --> 00:19:46,200 You don't have to take it off. 405 00:20:08,640 --> 00:20:09,920 Do you want to lie down? 406 00:20:09,960 --> 00:20:11,840 Yeah, yeah. Yeah, lets... I'm up for that, yeah. 407 00:20:11,880 --> 00:20:13,400 That sounds good? HE LAUGHS 408 00:20:16,480 --> 00:20:19,320 As Joy escalates the intimacy, 409 00:20:19,360 --> 00:20:21,160 Jason isn't holding back. 410 00:20:23,320 --> 00:20:25,840 So, is he ready for another first? 411 00:20:55,080 --> 00:20:57,440 HE EXHALES 412 00:20:59,160 --> 00:21:01,920 HE BREATHES HEAVILY 413 00:21:01,960 --> 00:21:05,160 Phew!Yeah. THEY CHUCKLE 414 00:21:05,200 --> 00:21:06,600 I've come a long way. HE CHUCKLES 415 00:21:06,640 --> 00:21:09,960 Yeah, you really have. You really have, seriously. 416 00:21:10,000 --> 00:21:11,320 I never thought I'd get this far. 417 00:21:12,640 --> 00:21:14,120 Wow, you kiss good! THEY LAUGH 418 00:21:14,160 --> 00:21:15,160 And you touch good. 419 00:21:16,560 --> 00:21:18,040 Well, thank you. 420 00:21:18,080 --> 00:21:20,120 I hope I kiss half as good as you. 421 00:21:20,160 --> 00:21:22,080 It's beautiful, connecting with you. 422 00:21:22,120 --> 00:21:23,360 You are a beautiful man. 423 00:21:23,400 --> 00:21:25,760 You're a beautiful woman.Yeah, thank you. 424 00:21:30,480 --> 00:21:32,080 OK, bye. 425 00:21:32,120 --> 00:21:33,160 It's hard to put into words. I... 426 00:21:35,200 --> 00:21:36,680 The best feeling in the world. 427 00:21:36,720 --> 00:21:39,640 All my life, I've been wondering how my first kiss will go 428 00:21:39,680 --> 00:21:41,320 with a woman on the lips. 429 00:21:41,360 --> 00:21:44,680 I know it's not sex, but still...it feels great. 430 00:21:44,720 --> 00:21:47,200 I thought I'd be crap, but apparently I'm a natural. 431 00:21:50,680 --> 00:21:52,520 How did it go? Great. 432 00:21:52,560 --> 00:21:54,760 What happened? We was kissing on the lips, and shit. 433 00:21:54,800 --> 00:21:57,560 I haven't got to that yet. On the lips? Yeah. Oh, shit. 434 00:21:57,600 --> 00:21:59,400 I thought we weren't meant to kiss on the lips. 435 00:21:59,440 --> 00:22:00,440 I think we can get to that. 436 00:22:01,560 --> 00:22:04,000 When do we think people's therapy sessions will move to, like, 437 00:22:04,040 --> 00:22:06,760 touching and that? Mine already have. They already have, yeah. 438 00:22:06,800 --> 00:22:08,960 What, your therapist has sucked you off? 439 00:22:09,000 --> 00:22:11,200 No, not yet, but they might do today. 440 00:22:11,240 --> 00:22:12,840 I might ask her for that, she would probably do it. 441 00:22:13,840 --> 00:22:17,040 Zac feels he's made such good progress, that he's ready for more. 442 00:22:18,160 --> 00:22:21,080 I might fucking lose my virginity tonight. 443 00:22:21,120 --> 00:22:22,360 I dunno. I reckon tonight... 444 00:22:22,400 --> 00:22:23,480 I don't think it will get to it tonight, 445 00:22:23,520 --> 00:22:26,080 I think it will be the next one. Mm. Cos I think there's still... 446 00:22:26,120 --> 00:22:27,960 What for you? No, for you. JASON: There's still plenty of time. 447 00:22:28,000 --> 00:22:29,960 Well, I mean... I would know better than you... Don't rush it. 448 00:22:30,000 --> 00:22:31,560 No, I'm not saying that, but I'm... ..about that. 449 00:22:31,600 --> 00:22:33,280 I'm not trying to assume what you want... I know. 450 00:22:33,320 --> 00:22:35,960 I'm saying what they will... I'm saying what I think they will do. 451 00:22:36,000 --> 00:22:37,600 EMMA: Yeah, they might think it's too fast. Yeah. 452 00:22:43,120 --> 00:22:45,120 As evening falls... 453 00:22:45,160 --> 00:22:47,520 See you later, Zac. Have fun! 454 00:22:47,560 --> 00:22:51,080 ..Zac's extreme confidence is still playing on Emma's mind. 455 00:22:51,120 --> 00:22:54,720 The thing is, Zac reckons he's going to lose his virginity tonight, 456 00:22:54,760 --> 00:22:58,120 and I'm like, fair play - I really like his ambitious thinking - 457 00:22:58,160 --> 00:22:59,920 but if you go into it thinking that, 458 00:22:59,960 --> 00:23:02,120 are you setting yourself a false expectation? 459 00:23:02,160 --> 00:23:05,440 And then are you going to be upset if it doesn't happen? Mmm. 460 00:23:06,840 --> 00:23:08,840 Hello. Hello. 461 00:23:08,880 --> 00:23:10,320 And also, I feel like the therapists - 462 00:23:10,360 --> 00:23:13,720 if they don't think someone's ready for something that severe... Mm. 463 00:23:13,760 --> 00:23:15,800 ..they are not going to let it happen. No. 464 00:23:18,000 --> 00:23:20,640 How have you been feeling since our last session? 465 00:23:20,680 --> 00:23:24,000 I'm feeling good excited, actually. Yeah. Yeah. 466 00:23:24,040 --> 00:23:25,960 Um... 467 00:23:26,000 --> 00:23:27,720 Yeah, I'm keen to move forward, definitely. 468 00:23:28,720 --> 00:23:30,960 Do you want to get going? 469 00:23:32,040 --> 00:23:33,280 Yes, please. Yep? Yeah. 470 00:23:33,320 --> 00:23:35,040 OK. So, we're just going to start standing. 471 00:23:37,080 --> 00:23:40,600 If it feels OK, we're going to take off our clothes. Does it feel OK? 472 00:23:40,640 --> 00:23:41,880 Yeah. Yeah? OK. 473 00:23:44,080 --> 00:23:47,760 Surrogate partner therapy is definitely about way more than sex. 474 00:23:48,880 --> 00:23:51,960 It's about teaching really basic relationship skills 475 00:23:52,000 --> 00:23:56,560 like connections, how to relate to others, being more organic. 476 00:23:56,600 --> 00:24:00,680 So I think people need to connect in a therapeutic way. 477 00:24:03,960 --> 00:24:06,040 Kat has an exercise to build that bond. 478 00:24:07,120 --> 00:24:09,080 She wants them to look into each other's eyes 479 00:24:09,120 --> 00:24:11,840 and share their honest, unspoken feelings. 480 00:24:19,960 --> 00:24:21,960 I think I want to move forward. 481 00:24:23,120 --> 00:24:24,120 What does that mean? 482 00:24:25,640 --> 00:24:28,440 I want to touch you, and be touched by you. Mm-hm. 483 00:24:29,520 --> 00:24:32,200 I think there's something in, like, 484 00:24:32,240 --> 00:24:34,400 emphasis on wanting to connect with your touch 485 00:24:34,440 --> 00:24:36,520 that makes me feel like an immediate, like, 486 00:24:36,560 --> 00:24:37,600 "Oh, wait - I'm here." 487 00:24:39,600 --> 00:24:40,600 Hmm. 488 00:24:41,600 --> 00:24:43,160 So what are you noticing? Honestly, I feel a little... 489 00:24:46,240 --> 00:24:47,760 ..coldness from you. 490 00:24:47,800 --> 00:24:49,240 Yeah, I'm just not feeling... 491 00:24:50,600 --> 00:24:53,080 ..that desire from you that I need. 492 00:24:54,800 --> 00:24:55,960 Yeah. 493 00:24:56,000 --> 00:24:57,800 I mean, if I'm being totally honest, 494 00:24:57,840 --> 00:25:02,040 I feel that, like, emphasis on that physical part... Yeah. 495 00:25:02,080 --> 00:25:04,240 ..that's when I get a little protective. 496 00:25:11,160 --> 00:25:13,480 I think I came in here, you know, confident and... 497 00:25:15,040 --> 00:25:17,720 ..Excited. Mm-hm. I don't if... 498 00:25:18,760 --> 00:25:23,200 ..you're as used to that in this line of work, 499 00:25:23,240 --> 00:25:27,280 and I don't know if you find that intimidating? 500 00:25:32,600 --> 00:25:36,560 And I'm trying to help you learn how to, like, attune. 501 00:25:38,840 --> 00:25:40,480 But I don't know. I'm feeling blocked, 502 00:25:40,520 --> 00:25:42,080 and I'm trying to understand why. 503 00:25:47,120 --> 00:25:50,480 Maybe it just doesn't work between you and me. 504 00:25:50,520 --> 00:25:51,520 That might be. 505 00:25:59,440 --> 00:26:01,200 OK, then I think we'll get dressed 506 00:26:01,240 --> 00:26:03,640 and that's enough for today. OK. 507 00:26:16,360 --> 00:26:19,440 Hey. Hi. You all right? No. 508 00:26:21,160 --> 00:26:22,160 What's up? 509 00:26:24,280 --> 00:26:25,760 We're here to support each other, yeah? 510 00:26:27,320 --> 00:26:29,040 ZAC SIGHS 511 00:26:41,960 --> 00:26:44,680 {\an8}Morning, morning. Morning. Morning. 512 00:26:44,720 --> 00:26:45,720 Morning Viraj, you all right? 513 00:26:46,840 --> 00:26:49,680 It's morning on day ten of the retreat... 514 00:26:49,720 --> 00:26:51,920 What do you think was on the cards today then, eh? 515 00:26:51,960 --> 00:26:53,080 Um... 516 00:26:53,120 --> 00:26:56,160 Oh, god, what if today is like, just whack it off or something? 517 00:26:56,200 --> 00:26:57,920 THEY LAUGH 518 00:26:59,680 --> 00:27:01,160 ..Zac is feeling reflective... 519 00:27:02,560 --> 00:27:06,000 My session with Kat yesterday went terribly. 520 00:27:06,040 --> 00:27:09,000 It caused me a lot of distress that I would rather do without. 521 00:27:11,400 --> 00:27:14,640 I'm feeling a lot more reserved and cautious. 522 00:27:17,680 --> 00:27:19,600 ..and everyone has noticed. 523 00:27:19,640 --> 00:27:22,600 Who do you think is actually going to sleep with their therapist? 524 00:27:22,640 --> 00:27:25,160 I would've said Zac, but after his little tumble yesterday, 525 00:27:25,200 --> 00:27:28,040 now I'm not so sure he's going to. He wasn't good this morning. 526 00:27:28,080 --> 00:27:29,080 He walked past my cabin, 527 00:27:29,120 --> 00:27:31,080 and I was like, "How are you?" And he was like, he's shit. Yeah. 528 00:27:31,120 --> 00:27:32,120 Damn. 529 00:27:35,240 --> 00:27:38,360 Issues inevitably arise in surrogate partner therapy 530 00:27:38,400 --> 00:27:40,920 as it's such a unique relationship, 531 00:27:40,960 --> 00:27:44,880 which is why a clinical therapist is on hand to help solve problems. 532 00:27:44,920 --> 00:27:46,680 DOOR OPENS Hello.Hi! 533 00:27:57,600 --> 00:27:59,640 {\an8}All righty, so I'm going to kind of open it up. 534 00:27:59,680 --> 00:28:01,800 I want to hear a little bit from you both of.. Mm-hm. 535 00:28:01,840 --> 00:28:03,760 ...what's been going on, so if you... 536 00:28:03,800 --> 00:28:05,800 Can you kind of share a little with me? 537 00:28:09,520 --> 00:28:13,560 So, I left our session last night feeling very confused. 538 00:28:13,600 --> 00:28:16,520 It's not that I felt like I did anything wrong, but... 539 00:28:17,720 --> 00:28:21,320 ..I felt like maybe I might've made you uncomfortable? 540 00:28:21,360 --> 00:28:23,400 And, you know, I'm sorry if that's the case. 541 00:28:25,360 --> 00:28:29,760 Can you, you know, give me a little bit about your experience Kat? 542 00:28:29,800 --> 00:28:32,320 So we undressed, and we were standing across from each other, 543 00:28:32,360 --> 00:28:34,160 do you remember exactly what you said? 544 00:28:34,200 --> 00:28:35,760 Yeah, I... HE SIGHS 545 00:28:35,800 --> 00:28:38,600 I said that I thought you might feel maybe intimidated. 546 00:28:38,640 --> 00:28:41,000 That's what it was. Yeah. Saying I felt intimidated by... Yeah. 547 00:28:41,040 --> 00:28:43,640 It, like... That was definitely the point at which I was like, 548 00:28:43,680 --> 00:28:44,960 "And the door is closed." SHE CHUCKLES 549 00:28:45,000 --> 00:28:48,000 Yeah, I'm sorry that my words 550 00:28:48,040 --> 00:28:49,480 sort of, did that. HE CHUCKLES 551 00:28:49,520 --> 00:28:54,200 Yeah. What were you noticing inside of yourself? 552 00:28:56,760 --> 00:29:00,400 I was trying to figure out what was, I think, going on inside your head, 553 00:29:00,440 --> 00:29:02,320 but I'm not a mind-reader. HE LAUGHS 554 00:29:02,360 --> 00:29:04,840 I wasn't expecting you to be a mind-reader, 555 00:29:04,880 --> 00:29:08,120 I was telling you what was going on, and I felt like, 556 00:29:08,160 --> 00:29:11,320 instead of meeting that vulnerability with vulnerability, 557 00:29:11,360 --> 00:29:12,560 you met it with blame. 558 00:29:15,520 --> 00:29:16,520 Mm. 559 00:29:18,120 --> 00:29:19,360 Is it OK if I touch your knee? HE SNIFFLES 560 00:29:22,160 --> 00:29:24,760 Yeah? Talk to me about what's coming up? 561 00:29:28,880 --> 00:29:33,040 You know, I find it hard to trust others emotionally. 562 00:29:35,040 --> 00:29:36,040 And be vulnerable... 563 00:29:37,840 --> 00:29:39,360 ..that's something I can't do. 564 00:29:39,400 --> 00:29:40,640 Hmm. 565 00:29:40,680 --> 00:29:42,720 Can I challenge your language there? 566 00:29:44,280 --> 00:29:49,840 I think it's something you can do, and I think it's OK to work with Kat 567 00:29:49,880 --> 00:29:51,040 building that muscle. 568 00:29:51,080 --> 00:29:52,200 She's willing to meet you 569 00:29:52,240 --> 00:29:55,440 in your humanity, and your vulnerability, and your fear 570 00:29:55,480 --> 00:29:57,960 because that's what a partnership is. 571 00:29:59,200 --> 00:30:00,240 Thank you. 572 00:30:00,280 --> 00:30:01,560 I want be more vulnerable. 573 00:30:03,200 --> 00:30:05,040 I want to share that with you. 574 00:30:09,120 --> 00:30:10,440 I want that connection. 575 00:30:19,040 --> 00:30:20,240 See you soon. 576 00:30:22,680 --> 00:30:26,120 I understand a little bit more how, perhaps, 577 00:30:26,160 --> 00:30:27,320 things could've gone better, 578 00:30:27,360 --> 00:30:32,080 and how I should shape my expectations, as well. 579 00:30:32,120 --> 00:30:33,600 Maybe just slow it down, 580 00:30:33,640 --> 00:30:36,800 go at a better pace, and try again next time. 581 00:30:39,200 --> 00:30:40,840 Hello, beautiful people. 582 00:30:40,880 --> 00:30:42,320 Hey, hey! Feeling any better? 583 00:30:43,760 --> 00:30:47,120 Yeah. A lot better, actually. Good. 584 00:30:48,480 --> 00:30:50,400 I feel like I have a plan of what I need to do. 585 00:30:52,920 --> 00:30:54,920 While Zac is feeling positive again... 586 00:30:54,960 --> 00:30:56,520 Spray the boobs. 587 00:30:56,560 --> 00:30:59,400 ..23-year-old Pia hopes to overcome the one issue 588 00:30:59,440 --> 00:31:01,760 standing in the way of losing her virginity. 589 00:31:02,880 --> 00:31:06,520 I struggle a lot with, like, penetration and that side of things. 590 00:31:06,560 --> 00:31:08,880 Yeah. Fair enough, yeah. So, it's just, like, figuring out 591 00:31:08,920 --> 00:31:11,560 what's going on down there. HE CHUCKLES 592 00:31:11,600 --> 00:31:13,960 I haven't had sex. 593 00:31:14,000 --> 00:31:15,240 I'm worried about it hurting. 594 00:31:15,280 --> 00:31:18,600 I'm worried about having an uncomfortable, painful experience. 595 00:31:18,640 --> 00:31:20,840 I've gotten to the point where I think this might be 596 00:31:20,880 --> 00:31:22,520 the person I lose my virginity to, 597 00:31:22,560 --> 00:31:25,640 but my chest gets tight, I feel like I can't breathe, 598 00:31:25,680 --> 00:31:27,720 I just get so anxious. I just feel like I can't do it! 599 00:31:27,760 --> 00:31:29,560 SHE LAUGHS Um... 600 00:31:29,600 --> 00:31:32,040 Cos I really want to get past these anxieties, 601 00:31:32,080 --> 00:31:35,200 but I'm not sure...how? 602 00:31:35,240 --> 00:31:36,840 Um... 603 00:31:36,880 --> 00:31:37,880 Yeah. 604 00:31:42,000 --> 00:31:43,000 Sorry just it's... 605 00:31:43,040 --> 00:31:44,720 SHE LAUGHS It's really hard. 606 00:31:45,880 --> 00:31:47,280 Hello, Pia. 607 00:31:47,320 --> 00:31:49,600 The experts have sent Pia to meet Thomas, 608 00:31:49,640 --> 00:31:52,600 who may be able to help through sensual massage. 609 00:31:54,240 --> 00:31:57,240 {\an8}So, I would be curious to know before we start, 610 00:31:57,280 --> 00:32:00,520 {\an8}like, what's your intention for the session, what's your goal. 611 00:32:00,560 --> 00:32:04,280 Yeah, so, because of my issues with, like, penetration and stuff, 612 00:32:04,320 --> 00:32:06,320 I've never really been able to explore it. 613 00:32:06,360 --> 00:32:09,400 Every time I've done it, even with myself, I've kind of just, like, 614 00:32:09,440 --> 00:32:11,520 panicked and freaked out and stuff... Yeah. 615 00:32:11,560 --> 00:32:13,760 ..because it just felt uncomfortable. Yeah. 616 00:32:13,800 --> 00:32:16,640 So, yeah, if I could just understand myself a bit better. Yeah. 617 00:32:16,680 --> 00:32:19,640 Learn how to be relaxed while receiving touch, maybe. Exactly. 618 00:32:19,680 --> 00:32:23,400 That's great. So, basically, this session we'll do, like, 619 00:32:23,440 --> 00:32:26,000 step-by-step exploration of your genitals. OK. 620 00:32:26,040 --> 00:32:29,680 What's pleasant, what's pleasurable, what's not pleasurable. 621 00:32:29,720 --> 00:32:33,040 If you wish so, you can be fully naked. 622 00:32:33,080 --> 00:32:35,200 As you prefer. OK. Cool. 623 00:32:35,240 --> 00:32:38,760 Any more questions before we start? Erm... I don't think so. 624 00:32:38,800 --> 00:32:41,400 OK. We're all good. Great. Sounds good. 625 00:32:41,440 --> 00:32:45,520 Thomas will use a technique known as "genital mapping" - 626 00:32:45,560 --> 00:32:50,880 an erotic exploration of the vagina through touch that releases tension. 627 00:32:50,920 --> 00:32:53,360 Pia really struggles with vaginismus. 628 00:32:53,400 --> 00:32:58,840 Vaginismus is basically, like, your vagina really being so clenched 629 00:32:58,880 --> 00:33:02,000 that it cannot let anything in. 630 00:33:02,040 --> 00:33:05,720 Usually the source is both physical and mental. 631 00:33:05,760 --> 00:33:09,440 I feel she's really anxious, so it might be really useful 632 00:33:09,480 --> 00:33:12,840 to do some body work in order to release the tension. 633 00:33:12,880 --> 00:33:15,280 So, ready? 634 00:33:16,320 --> 00:33:18,080 Yeah, ready. 635 00:33:18,120 --> 00:33:22,080 {\an8}Just going really slow. You can tell me how much pressure you need. 636 00:33:22,120 --> 00:33:25,160 {\an8}Ow. Oh, yeah. Yeah. Painful? 637 00:33:25,200 --> 00:33:27,080 {\an8}A little bit, yeah. Yeah. 638 00:33:27,120 --> 00:33:30,520 {\an8}I can feel a bit of clenching in your vagina. Yeah. 639 00:33:30,560 --> 00:33:33,000 {\an8}Just try to breathe into it and see, like, 640 00:33:33,040 --> 00:33:35,160 {\an8}if it moves, if it changes 641 00:33:35,200 --> 00:33:38,200 {\an8}just being really welcoming with the sensation. 642 00:33:42,760 --> 00:33:45,720 Yeah, that feels less uncomfortable. 643 00:33:45,760 --> 00:33:48,000 Yeah, that feels OK. 644 00:33:48,040 --> 00:33:49,520 Perfect. 645 00:33:49,560 --> 00:33:53,920 Now I will just apply a bit more pressure for you to feel it. Yeah. 646 00:33:53,960 --> 00:33:55,640 Yeah, that feels OK. 647 00:33:57,520 --> 00:34:01,760 {\an8}And applying some motion to see if it helps with your tightness. 648 00:34:02,800 --> 00:34:05,240 {\an8}That's nice. It's nice? Yeah? 649 00:34:09,280 --> 00:34:10,840 Mmm. 650 00:34:11,880 --> 00:34:13,320 Mmm. 651 00:34:14,280 --> 00:34:16,000 Mmm. 652 00:34:17,040 --> 00:34:18,760 PIA GROANS 653 00:34:18,800 --> 00:34:21,040 Ah, that's beautiful. 654 00:34:22,080 --> 00:34:25,760 I don't feel scared of it anymore. I feel, erm... 655 00:34:25,800 --> 00:34:28,160 ..more like I have a better understanding 656 00:34:28,200 --> 00:34:31,520 of myself and my vagina, so I'm very happy. 657 00:34:31,560 --> 00:34:35,960 As Pia basks in the glow of her first successful penetration... 658 00:34:36,000 --> 00:34:40,520 Jason, look at my little pet. Oh, my God! OK. 659 00:34:42,000 --> 00:34:44,240 ..there's one thing on Jason's mind, too. 660 00:34:44,280 --> 00:34:48,080 It takes men 30 seconds to two minutes, I think, 661 00:34:48,120 --> 00:34:51,520 for a man to get an erection and stuff, and basically ready for sex, 662 00:34:51,560 --> 00:34:54,600 but it can take women 30 to 40 minutes. 663 00:34:54,640 --> 00:34:56,000 Fuck off! 664 00:34:57,280 --> 00:35:01,000 Jason has dived headfirst into somatic therapy. 665 00:35:01,040 --> 00:35:03,520 In some ways I feel like he gets the most pleasure 666 00:35:03,560 --> 00:35:06,160 out of touch experiences of anybody who arrived, 667 00:35:06,200 --> 00:35:08,720 and this is somebody who couldn't even receive a hug. 668 00:35:10,480 --> 00:35:13,240 But there's definitely still things for him to work on. 669 00:35:13,280 --> 00:35:16,960 After his first kiss, the experts think Jason is ready to experience 670 00:35:17,000 --> 00:35:19,760 a whole new level of intimate touch... 671 00:35:19,800 --> 00:35:21,520 Hi. Hello. You all right? 672 00:35:21,560 --> 00:35:24,240 ..so he's having another session with Joy. 673 00:35:25,280 --> 00:35:30,360 So, do you feel ready to take your clothes off, into the buff? Yeah. 674 00:35:30,400 --> 00:35:32,520 Yeah? Cool. OK. I'm up for it. 675 00:35:37,040 --> 00:35:39,280 THEY GIGGLE 676 00:35:39,320 --> 00:35:41,520 Can we connect? Yes. Just... 677 00:35:45,000 --> 00:35:46,840 Is that nice? Yes. 678 00:35:50,200 --> 00:35:53,000 You see? Yeah. We don't even have to try. 679 00:35:55,560 --> 00:35:57,760 I'm aroused. Yeah. Yeah. 680 00:35:58,800 --> 00:36:01,360 Yeah, I noticed. Can I give you a kiss? 681 00:36:01,400 --> 00:36:02,760 Yeah. 682 00:36:12,840 --> 00:36:14,720 JOY LAUGHS 683 00:36:18,040 --> 00:36:20,520 Gorgeous eyes. Thank you. 684 00:36:20,560 --> 00:36:23,240 So do you. Thank you. 685 00:36:38,280 --> 00:36:40,240 JASON BREATHES HEAVILY 686 00:36:46,280 --> 00:36:47,760 Oh, yeah. 687 00:36:51,280 --> 00:36:53,240 JASON BREATHES HEAVILY 688 00:37:08,200 --> 00:37:09,520 Woo. 689 00:37:12,360 --> 00:37:14,920 THEY LAUGH Yeah. 690 00:37:14,960 --> 00:37:16,520 Thank you, Joy. 691 00:37:16,560 --> 00:37:18,760 I seriously mean it. Thank you. 692 00:37:19,800 --> 00:37:21,760 There's Jason. Hello. 693 00:37:21,800 --> 00:37:24,240 Still a virgin. Ah, dammit. 694 00:37:24,280 --> 00:37:27,440 But we went on the bed, rolled around on there... Fuck off! 695 00:37:27,480 --> 00:37:30,320 ..took her bra off... Was this in the tipi? In the tipi. 696 00:37:30,360 --> 00:37:32,240 Kissing and stuff, and then... 697 00:37:32,280 --> 00:37:33,880 And then I climaxed. 698 00:37:33,920 --> 00:37:35,440 Wow. 699 00:37:35,480 --> 00:37:40,000 It's easier said than done, but just being in the moment really helps. 700 00:37:40,040 --> 00:37:42,520 I'm ready for the real world now. 701 00:37:42,560 --> 00:37:44,360 But I'm really uncomfortable. 702 00:37:44,400 --> 00:37:46,840 Can I go to my tent? I need to change my boxers... 703 00:37:46,880 --> 00:37:48,640 HE LAUGHS ..please. 704 00:37:54,760 --> 00:37:57,640 It's the afternoon on Virgin Island. 705 00:37:58,680 --> 00:38:02,000 Are you whacking it all off? All of it? Yep, all of it's going. 706 00:38:02,040 --> 00:38:04,920 Who's shaving it? Me. 707 00:38:04,960 --> 00:38:08,960 And after his setback with Kat, Zac's ready for a fresh start. 708 00:38:10,200 --> 00:38:13,080 Do you want all these bits of fuzz to go as well? 709 00:38:13,120 --> 00:38:15,840 Yeah, honestly, I want everything to go. 710 00:38:15,880 --> 00:38:17,400 Ready? I'm ready. 711 00:38:17,440 --> 00:38:19,680 Do you want to say anything? No. 712 00:38:19,720 --> 00:38:22,160 Do it. LAUGHTER 713 00:38:23,200 --> 00:38:25,400 Off it goes. Yay! 714 00:38:25,440 --> 00:38:27,680 OK, here you go. Brilliant. 715 00:38:29,800 --> 00:38:33,400 What does this symbolise for you? New beginnings. 716 00:38:33,440 --> 00:38:34,920 Yay! 717 00:38:34,960 --> 00:38:38,240 HE LAUGHS It's been a long time coming. 718 00:38:38,280 --> 00:38:41,280 Oh, we're going to slap this head so hard. 719 00:38:42,320 --> 00:38:45,160 I can't wait until it's proper smooth. It looks so good. 720 00:38:45,200 --> 00:38:48,160 This is a good head. I'd like rubbing this head. 721 00:38:48,200 --> 00:38:50,680 Like a genie in a lamp. Feel the fuzz. 722 00:38:50,720 --> 00:38:52,680 Feel the fuzz. 723 00:38:53,720 --> 00:38:55,680 ZAC LAUGHS 724 00:38:56,960 --> 00:38:58,520 Feeling good. 725 00:38:59,560 --> 00:39:02,560 It's like a fresh fade. Honestly, it's well nice. It is, isn't it? 726 00:39:02,600 --> 00:39:04,160 It's really good. 727 00:39:04,200 --> 00:39:06,520 Whilst the group admires Zac's new look, 728 00:39:06,560 --> 00:39:08,720 Viraj and Emma are talking orgasms. 729 00:39:08,760 --> 00:39:11,320 So you didn't go back to your tent and have a wank? 730 00:39:11,360 --> 00:39:13,400 No, no. VIRAJ LAUGHS 731 00:39:13,440 --> 00:39:15,240 Have you had one since being here? 732 00:39:15,280 --> 00:39:18,400 Do you want to know? Yeah. Yeah, the fact that you're no answer 733 00:39:18,440 --> 00:39:20,040 is definitely an answer. 734 00:39:20,080 --> 00:39:21,680 Have you? 735 00:39:22,960 --> 00:39:24,400 Really?! 736 00:39:24,440 --> 00:39:26,400 No comment. Come on. 737 00:39:27,720 --> 00:39:30,160 Maybe.Maybe. VIRAJ LAUGHS 738 00:39:30,200 --> 00:39:32,840 I have a little bit, but I haven't orgasmed though. 739 00:39:35,120 --> 00:39:38,280 After Emma's unsuccessful attempt to reach orgasm, 740 00:39:38,320 --> 00:39:42,680 Celeste wants to teach her how to get the most out of her vibrator 741 00:39:42,720 --> 00:39:45,680 so that she can climax for the first time. 742 00:39:45,720 --> 00:39:48,560 Can you bring out your toy and I can just show you a little bit... 743 00:39:48,600 --> 00:39:51,600 Yes, of course I can. ..because I think that might help you. Yeah. 744 00:39:51,640 --> 00:39:54,800 That's the kind I use, too, so I'm very familiar. OK, brilliant. 745 00:39:54,840 --> 00:39:57,280 The first time you kind of have to hold it down. Right. 746 00:39:57,320 --> 00:40:00,680 To me, that feels quite, like, vicious. OK, so, actually... 747 00:40:00,720 --> 00:40:03,920 ..you can just start, like, with your fingers, 748 00:40:03,960 --> 00:40:07,160 and then work your way up to the vibrator. 749 00:40:07,200 --> 00:40:11,640 The hands, I'm just a bit unsure on how to approach it. 750 00:40:11,680 --> 00:40:15,160 So, at first, you can just, like, do, like, very light... 751 00:40:15,200 --> 00:40:18,320 OK. ..and then just explore 752 00:40:18,360 --> 00:40:22,040 and see where the place feels like the most sensation... Right. 753 00:40:22,080 --> 00:40:24,680 ..and then you might just make little circles there. 754 00:40:24,720 --> 00:40:27,400 Sometimes you have to get kind of fast in order to actually 755 00:40:27,440 --> 00:40:30,120 get to orgasm, and, like, when I masturbate, it's like, 756 00:40:30,160 --> 00:40:32,880 who cares what my body looks like or what it's doing. 757 00:40:32,920 --> 00:40:35,680 I'm just thinking, "How do I get that sensation more?" 758 00:40:35,720 --> 00:40:38,880 With an orgasm, as such, is it an instant, like... 759 00:40:38,920 --> 00:40:40,680 ..climax and then it drops? 760 00:40:40,720 --> 00:40:44,400 Or when you're up there, does it last? It'll be like a slow build. 761 00:40:44,440 --> 00:40:47,160 Once you're up there, you'll probably feel a release. 762 00:40:47,200 --> 00:40:50,320 Sometimes you feel your muscles sort of go like...that. Right, OK. 763 00:40:50,360 --> 00:40:53,000 Because that's what actually happens in your body. 764 00:40:53,040 --> 00:40:55,040 Different women are different. Yeah. 765 00:40:55,080 --> 00:40:58,880 So I was thinking today, maybe we could have a rite of passage... 766 00:40:58,920 --> 00:41:02,680 Yeah. ..where you become an adult in the erotic realm. Yes. 767 00:41:02,720 --> 00:41:04,680 Yes? OK, yeah. Is that OK? Yeah. 768 00:41:04,720 --> 00:41:07,680 I want you to think of this self-pleasuring experience 769 00:41:07,720 --> 00:41:12,360 like this is Emma becoming a powerful, 770 00:41:12,400 --> 00:41:16,080 wise woman in the world. Yeah. 771 00:41:16,120 --> 00:41:19,160 We've made a special space... OK. 772 00:41:19,200 --> 00:41:22,200 ..for you to be able to have that alone time. OK. 773 00:41:22,240 --> 00:41:24,240 Ready? 774 00:41:24,280 --> 00:41:26,240 Oh, my God, is it going to happen now? 775 00:41:26,280 --> 00:41:29,400 Oh, my God! Yeah, I'm taking you over to the room. 776 00:41:29,440 --> 00:41:31,640 Fuck. OK, OK... CELESTE LAUGHS 777 00:41:31,680 --> 00:41:33,200 Thank you, thank you. 778 00:41:33,240 --> 00:41:35,000 Right, OK. 779 00:41:35,040 --> 00:41:37,400 This is scary. SHE LAUGHS 780 00:41:52,960 --> 00:41:55,920 After an hour of alone time, Emma emerges. 781 00:41:55,960 --> 00:41:59,880 I think I managed to achieve my first orgasm ever. 782 00:41:59,920 --> 00:42:04,680 It's such a weird feeling because it's kind of unpredictable 783 00:42:04,720 --> 00:42:06,480 and it's hard to explain. 784 00:42:06,520 --> 00:42:08,600 It kind of left me speechless a little bit. 785 00:42:08,640 --> 00:42:11,160 It just... I feel like everything makes sense. 786 00:42:11,200 --> 00:42:15,080 That sounds so weird but I just feel a lot more at peace. 787 00:42:15,120 --> 00:42:18,200 I couldn't even imagine the feeling of it. 788 00:42:18,240 --> 00:42:20,400 All this build up, 789 00:42:20,440 --> 00:42:23,320 and, "How have I only just done that?", sort of thing. 790 00:42:23,360 --> 00:42:25,600 How have I not explored this before? 791 00:42:25,640 --> 00:42:28,400 And I think I'm just looking forward to the next one. 792 00:42:34,200 --> 00:42:36,800 But it's not just Emma that's learning more 793 00:42:36,840 --> 00:42:38,520 about the female anatomy. 794 00:42:38,560 --> 00:42:41,920 The first time I touched her vagina, Kat started laughing at me because 795 00:42:41,960 --> 00:42:45,080 I made a really weird face because I didn't expect it to feel... 796 00:42:45,120 --> 00:42:47,720 It's so, like, jelly-like. I didn't expect that. 797 00:42:47,760 --> 00:42:50,160 Hang on. Have you felt it, then? Yeah. 798 00:42:50,200 --> 00:42:52,240 What, Kat? Yeah. 799 00:42:52,280 --> 00:42:54,160 Really? Oh, cool. 800 00:42:55,200 --> 00:42:58,240 After touching a vagina, Dave's a changed man. 801 00:42:59,280 --> 00:43:02,160 But he still hasn't had any sex with a partner. 802 00:43:02,200 --> 00:43:06,160 I just want to actually get over these difficulties I have. 803 00:43:07,200 --> 00:43:10,520 That could be really, really life-changing. 804 00:43:11,560 --> 00:43:13,680 Hi. Hello. How're you? 805 00:43:13,720 --> 00:43:15,160 Good. 806 00:43:15,200 --> 00:43:19,720 I'm really scared that I could just be too awkward and I could blow it. 807 00:43:23,720 --> 00:43:28,440 So, on the orgasm phase of the course, Kat escalates. 808 00:43:28,480 --> 00:43:33,120 My suggestion for today would be to do turn taking 809 00:43:33,160 --> 00:43:37,720 more erotic genital touch with, like, a soft goal of orgasm. 810 00:43:41,720 --> 00:43:44,720 I feel, obviously, slightly nervous. 811 00:43:44,760 --> 00:43:46,400 About escalation? 812 00:43:46,440 --> 00:43:48,160 Yeah... Yeah. 813 00:43:50,080 --> 00:43:51,680 Like... 814 00:43:54,040 --> 00:43:55,680 Do you know what I mean? 815 00:43:55,720 --> 00:43:58,160 I wouldn't be hard on yourself about it. 816 00:43:58,200 --> 00:44:01,040 Try just relaxing. Yeah. Yeah. 817 00:44:01,080 --> 00:44:04,360 OK, are you ready to get going? Yeah, sure. 818 00:44:04,400 --> 00:44:07,600 So we're going to undress. 819 00:44:11,960 --> 00:44:14,960 So you can go ahead and lie down. 820 00:44:15,000 --> 00:44:18,680 And I want you to just direct my touch. 821 00:44:18,720 --> 00:44:20,360 OK. Yeah? 822 00:44:21,960 --> 00:44:25,680 {\an8}Would you be able to just start on my balls? 823 00:44:26,720 --> 00:44:28,600 {\an8}Like that? Yeah. 824 00:44:29,640 --> 00:44:31,560 And maybe move up to... 825 00:44:32,720 --> 00:44:35,680 ..the bottom of, erm... 826 00:44:35,720 --> 00:44:37,640 ..my dick. 827 00:44:42,440 --> 00:44:44,160 Yeah, that's nice. 828 00:44:44,200 --> 00:44:46,760 That feels good? Yeah, that feels good. 829 00:44:46,800 --> 00:44:48,520 All of it feels good. 830 00:44:51,800 --> 00:44:53,680 Just close your eyes. 831 00:45:09,880 --> 00:45:11,680 Yes? Yeah. 832 00:45:12,720 --> 00:45:14,480 THEY GIGGLE 833 00:45:14,520 --> 00:45:17,680 But this session is all about taking turns. 834 00:45:17,720 --> 00:45:20,160 The oil is there. Yeah. 835 00:45:20,200 --> 00:45:22,160 And go for it. 836 00:45:22,200 --> 00:45:23,680 OK. 837 00:45:26,600 --> 00:45:28,360 Mm, a little slower. 838 00:45:30,040 --> 00:45:33,600 {\an8}And then just do a little more pressure. 839 00:45:35,200 --> 00:45:37,080 KAT GROANS 840 00:45:43,520 --> 00:45:45,400 I had a little orgasm. 841 00:45:48,120 --> 00:45:50,680 {\an8}Is it OK to go into, like, cuddling? 842 00:45:50,720 --> 00:45:52,320 {\an8}Cuddling? Yeah. 843 00:45:52,360 --> 00:45:54,280 {\an8}THEY LAUGH Yeah. 844 00:45:59,040 --> 00:46:02,080 What would you like to do with the next session? 845 00:46:02,120 --> 00:46:06,320 {\an8}I would like to lose my virginity. You would? Yeah. Yay. 846 00:46:06,360 --> 00:46:08,160 {\an8}THEY LAUGH 847 00:46:09,360 --> 00:46:13,600 Next time... Would you like to move to the bed? Yeah, let's do it. 848 00:46:13,640 --> 00:46:15,640 ..who out of the group... 849 00:46:15,680 --> 00:46:19,120 You are a fuckin' goddess. 850 00:46:19,160 --> 00:46:21,120 ..will make the most of... 851 00:46:24,360 --> 00:46:27,200 ..their last days on Virgin Island? 852 00:46:27,240 --> 00:46:29,600 HE BREATHES HEAVILY 853 00:46:56,680 --> 00:46:59,640 Subtitles by Red Bee Media 853 00:47:00,305 --> 00:48:00,152 Support us and become VIP member to remove all ads from www.OpenSubtitles.org